Imagine being raised by your dad and his girlfriend after your mom dies.

If your dad died too, leaving you an orphan, and you went to live with your grandparents, would you keep in touch with your late dad’s girlfriend, or would you never talk to her again?

In this story, one woman is that exact situation, and she chose the second option, but now that she’s planning her wedding, her half sister is trying to convince her to give her late dad’s girlfriend (the half-sister’s mom) a role in the wedding.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITA for warning my half sister she won’t be invited to my wedding if she continues to push me to ask her mom to walk me down the aisle?

I (29f) lost my mom when I was very young (4) and my dad met the mother of my half sister when I was 8. They had my half sister together and married when I was 10.

When I was 13 my dad died. I chose to live with my grandparents and had regular contact with my half sister but I did not keep in touch with her mom.

My half sister had her own phone since she was young so I didn’t see a need to have contact with her and I was never fond of her mom to begin with.

I always found her annoying and frustrating to be around.

She shares what it was like when she lived with her dad and stepmom.

I used to stress being around her because when she’d offer to help dad out with me she would make me late for everything, even school. It was never something she took seriously though and dad had to stop her helping out.

But it bothered her more that I was so glad she wasn’t doing it too.

She’d complain about my friends parents not treating her like my legit parent. I was stuck in a car with her for 40 minutes while she complained about some of them.

She said I could start calling her my stepmom instead of dad’s girlfriend, which she was btw, so they’d take her more seriously.

Her stepmom wanted to raise her.

Her mom was upset by the fact I didn’t like her or want to stay in touch with her.

She tried to keep me with her and my half sister after dad died, but plans were already in place to instruct where I’d go and who would have custody if dad were to die.

It upset my half sister as she got older that I didn’t remember much about my mom and yet I wouldn’t let her mom be my mom even once I became an orphan.

Eventually we came to an agreement that we didn’t have to be on the same side of the debate but we just wouldn’t talk about it.

She’s getting married, and her half sister is causing drama.

Now my wedding has presented a chance for my half sister to push the narrative that her mom somehow has this important role in my life and that she should walk me down the aisle since she’s the only parent I have left (in my half sister’s mind).

I shut that down hard.

My half sister pushed the issue more. She told me I have no valid reason for saying no.

I explained that I don’t need one. That it’s my wedding and her mom isn’t even invited.

There’s a very good reason she didn’t give her half sister an open ended plus one to the wedding.

My half sister said she should be and she complained that I put her boyfriends name on the invite instead of just a regular plus one because she would have brought her mom and her mom would’ve been there and I would have needed to give her the role.

I explained even if she’d done that her mom would have been an unwanted guest and not a parent of the bride and would have had zero role.

She has refused to lay off so I warned her that if she continues I won’t invite her to the wedding.

My half sister told me I couldn’t leave her off the guest list.

Oh, but she can.

And I told her I could and would. I reminded her this is my wedding and not hers and she doesn’t automatically get an invite.

She’s saying I’m a cold-hearted person and my threat is unfair when she’s doing the right thing.

I told her we disagree on that.

She said this whole issue is my fault and not hers.

AITA?

It’s her wedding. She gets to decide who she wants to invite and who (if anyone) she wants to have walk her down the aisle.

Her half sister needs to agree to disagree again and keep her opinions to herself.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

Here’s a suggestion to uninvite the half sister.

Here’s another vote for uninviting her.

But perhaps she could give her one final warning.

Here’s a suggestion about what to say to the half sister.

Her half sister might ruin her wedding day.

She has every right to have the wedding of her dreams, not her half sister’s dreams.

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