Sometimes, the hardest part of growing up is realizing your parents don’t see you as an adult yet.

So, what would you do if you mentioned that your boyfriend’s family invited you to Thanksgiving, but your mom took it as a betrayal and turned it into a fight that went way too far?

Would you apologize and just go home for the holiday? Or would you sit back and wait for her to cool down?

In the following story, a college student finds herself in this exact situation, and now her mom is threatening her.

Here’s what happened.

AITA for telling my mom I got invited to my boyfriend’s family Thanksgiving?

I (23F) got invited to my boyfriend’s (22M) family Thanksgiving. We have been together for 1 year, and he’s met my parents twice.

A few weeks ago, my mom offered to visit me for Thanksgiving, but also said it was fine if I had plans with friends.

I told her I wasn’t sure yet, and we never officially made plans together.

It all started when her mother started jumping to conclusions.

Earlier this week, I was on the phone with my mom, catching up. She asked me if I had made any decisions about Thanksgiving yet. I told her that my boyfriend invited me to his family’s Thanksgiving dinner (I never said I accepted the invite).

She got really upset and started saying I was sneaky and deceptive and claiming that I knew all along that I was going to hang out with him or that I was just waiting to get an invite from him.

She accused me of not making plans with her because of this. She also insinuated that this decision meant I would not be coming home for Christmas. I told her that’s not true, I fully intend to come home.

A few days later, she received an email.

She asked when I found out about the invite, and I said a few days before this call. Then she asked if I had anything to say. And I just said that I was sorry I didn’t tell her sooner.

I didn’t know what else to say. She said she didn’t have anything more to say to me, and we ended the call.

The next two days, we had no contact with each other. Then, I woke up to an email saying she was really hurt and upset with my decision about Thanksgiving.

Now, her mother is threatening her, and she’s not sure what to do.

She made several comments about my high school social life (comparing me to friends who would ditch me for plans with others and saying I was no better than them now) and several criticizing comments about my boyfriend’s character, calling him a slacker and a grifter.

In the second part of the email, she threatened to come across the country and take my car away (she bought it for me to have at school). She then proposed to ship her old car to me on the condition that I don’t leave my town with it (to prevent me from driving to see him).

It’s been 5 days, and we still haven’t talked.

AITA?

Yikes! She may need to think long and hard about her Thanksgiving plans. But that mom, though.

Let’s check out what the people over at Reddit think about mothers like this.

For this person, it’s about putting space between her and her mother.

Here’s an interesting point.

This reader thinks her mom is jealous.

According to this comment, she should go to her BF’s Thanksgiving.

She should call her mom and try to apologize. But rather than giving in, she should stand firm and let her mom know she’ll be home for Christmas.

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