November 25, 2025 at 6:15 am

Ex-Wife Puts Off Child Support Payments For Months, So When The State Stepped In, She Blamed Him For “Getting Her In Trouble”

by Benjamin Cottrell

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Co-parenting often comes with its fair share of finger-pointing, especially when it comes to financial matters.

But when one man’s ex-wife stopped making her child support payments, then tried to blame him for getting her in trouble with the state, it started a bitter argument over accountability.

Read on for the full story.

AITA for not telling my kids mom she was behind on support?

My ex-wife hasn’t paid child support in 3 months. The money goes straight into a savings account for the kids — it’s on autopilot, so I really didn’t notice.

Eventually, his ex-wife’s irresponsibility eventually caught up to her.

Apparently, she got her license suspended for not paying and is telling our kids and everyone else that I’m the AH and trying to get her put in jail.

But he knows this isn’t what happened at all.

I’m not, as that’s pointless, but my state has automated levels and actions it takes when someone falls behind on payments.

She continues to try and fault him for her own carelessness, but he fights back.

She’s calling me an AH because I didn’t tell her that her job wasn’t taking out the money.

I told her I don’t see how it’s my responsibility to make sure she does what she’s supposed to.

AITA?

Money and co-parenting rarely mix well, but this situation just got way too out of hand.

What did Reddit make of this situation?

This commenter isn’t quite buying the ex-wife’s story.

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Whether or not his ex-wife pays on time is 100% her responsibility.

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This woman is just being plain deceptive.

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This ex-wife needs to start being a lot more responsible with her money.

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He didn’t start the mess, and he shouldn’t be expected to clean it up either.

His ex-wife is an adult, and it’s high time she start acting like one.

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Benjamin Cottrell | Assistant Editor, Internet Culture

Benjamin Cottrell is an Assistant Editor and contributing writer at TwistedSifter, specializing in internet culture, viral social dynamics, and the moral complexities of online communities. He brings a highly analytical, editorial voice to his reporting on workplace conflicts, malicious compliance, and interpersonal drama, with a specific focus on nuanced stories that lack an obvious villain.

As a published author of rhetorical criticism, Benjamin leverages his academic background in human communication to dissect and elevate viral social media threads. Instead of simply summarizing events, he provides readers with balanced, deep-dive commentary into why the internet reacts the way it does. In addition to his cultural reporting, he is an experienced fine art photography essayist and video game reviewer.

When he isn’t analyzing the latest viral debates, Benjamin is usually chipping away at his extensive video game backlog, hunting down the best new restaurants, or out exploring the city with a camera in hand.

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