The obligation behind having to attend family weddings can be a ton of pressure, but is it always warranted?

What would you do if you had to choose between your sister’s wedding and a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity?

In this story, one woman was in this exact situation, and she chose to lie to the bride. Now, she’s wondering if that was the wrong thing to do.

Here’s what went down.

AITA for lying about why I didn’t go to my sister’s wedding?

My (24F) sister (36F) got married this past Friday.

On the day of her wedding, I had a very high profile job interview in another state and when I asked if I could reschedule, they said unfortunately they couldn’t, and I would lose out if I couldn’t make it.

I know this sounds crazy to miss someone’s wedding for, but this was a huge career opportunity for me and would change my life.

I also didn’t want to jinx it by telling a lot of people, so I told only those I am closest with.

Her sister isn’t one of the people she’s closest with.

My sister and I are not close.

We briefly reconnected over a few long phone calls this summer, but before that, we hadn’t spoken since I was in high school, almost 10 years ago.

For some additional context, she is close with my mother, who I am also not at all close with, but I am very close with my aunt.

She did tell her aunt.

I told my aunt about the opportunity, and my aunt said she would keep it to herself, but that I should give my sister a brief explanation without giving out any details.

But I didn’t.

I told my sister a day beforehand that I had a fever and was diagnosed with COVID, and would therefore not be able to attend.

She pretended to be sick.

I know this was wrong of me, but I didn’t want her to share the news with my mother or with everyone else at the wedding who would be asking where I was.

I know it sounds silly, but I just didn’t want any potential negativity right before a huge event for me.

Of course, she was upset, but understood.

But her aunt didn’t understand.

My aunt however called me and told me I was a bad person and TA for lying.

On one hand, I understand it’s of course wrong to lie, but on the other hand, it’s ultimately my business and it’s not that wrong to tell a harmless lie to save myself from a lot of questioning from people I am not close with.

But I am conflicted, am I TA for lying to my sister about why I wasn’t at her wedding?

This poster sounds a little self-absorbed. Let’s see what Reddit had to say.

The results were mixed, but most comments were scathing.

Though some people shed some grace.

One person simplified the situation.

It will be a day to remember, for better or for worse.

If you liked that story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandkid because his parents won’t, but then his parents want to use the money to cover sibling’s medical expenses.