It pays to be kind, especially to people who are grieving.

This woman was still mourning the tragic loss of her long-distance partner just five weeks ago.

But when her housemate’s mother made an insensitive remark about the man she lost, she was dumbfounded.

Read the full story below to find out what she heard.

AITA – housemate’s mother made a rude comment about my deceased partner

My partner died 5 weeks ago, and it has been extremely difficult for me.

We were long distance towards the end, and he passed tragically.

Last night, my housemate’s mother FaceTimed him.

I have never met or spoken to her before, but she did not say, “I am sorry for your loss,” or show any remorse.

This woman was completely shocked when she heard her housemate’s mother’s comment.

Instead, she said to me that he probably said he missed me and a lot of other girls at the same time.

I was completely shocked. I could not believe she even said it.

I gave the phone back to my housemate, who began to speak to her in Portuguese.

And did not seem to care about what she said to me.

She sent her housemate a message, saying how rude and insensitive his mother was.

I sent him a message saying how rude and uncomfortable it was for me to hear that.

He said, “It was my mum’s words, not mine.”

I said it makes me uncomfortable because why would she even say that?

Why would he not even jump to my defense?

Now, they haven’t spoken to each other all day.

I am grieving. I am a mess.

I basically told him I am sorry he has a mother who lacks so much empathy.

And we have not spoken to one another all day.

AITA?

Let’s check out the comments of other people on this story.

This user has a valid question.

This person is curious, too.

Here’s an honest opinion from this one.

This user shares their feelings.

Finally, this one thinks her housemate is not a friend.

If you can’t say anything kind, just don’t say anything at all.

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