Turning 30 felt like it should be a big, meaningful milestone, especially with a fiancé who had made her previous birthday feel special and thoughtful.

So when this year rolled around with little planning, vague answers, and last-minute details, she started to worry…but still held onto hope.

At least there were dinner reservations.

AITA for being sad on my birthday?

today was my 30th birthday. I was excited and hoping it was going to go well but trying to keep expectations low. this is a milestone birthday so I know it should be celebrated as such with the close people in your life.

context. my fiancé is a 31 year old man and we have been together for two years now. and engaged since october. my 30th birthday is our second birthday together since he met me a week after my 28th birthday.

my 29th birthday he was my boyfriend at the time he was very sweet. He took me to breakfast. He got me a card and flowers. Some beautiful gold earrings and took me out for a fun evening at an arcade together. A little out of my style or comfort zone but we still had fun Last year.

Sounds lovely.

this year he didn’t ask what I wanted or talk about plans of what to do-I was getting worried maybe he forgot even.

i asked last week since I haven’t heard a peep if he forgot and he stayed “I have plans“ and didn’t tell me the plans.

yesterday came and he texted me he booked dinner reservations for tonight aka my birthday night but didn’t say where. morning of he left for work said happy birthday and that was it.

Suspicious.

I knew breakfast together wasn’t going to happen since he leaves so early but I was hopeful for the afternoon.

no cards or present or anything stated of an event but I knew at least there was dinner reservations.

during the day he sent me a gif of happy birthday and then a link from uber for flowers to be delivered to our house since I was home. The link had me pick a time and the flowers were nice. They were four lilys and some roses.

Some effort…

fast forward he gets home from work says happy birthday we are going to my fav sushi place and I then I hear him wrapping something in the kitchen.

he comes over and hands me a box in Christmas wrapping paper and says happy birthday. I was relieved for a second since I thought he forgot my birthday gift or maybe just didn’t get one but it’s my 30th so I was hoping for something special or at least a card with something written sweet.

however when I opened it. It was not earrings or anything sentimental- it was a portable blue tooth speaker.

Oh.

i was to stunned to speak. It had a little sticker on it still like he just purchased this at the sporting goods store on the way home From work today.

it felt like I was totally an after thought. But this was my 30th and he’s my fiance. And he’s never given me a bad gift before. I just said thank you and then was down the rest of the evening.

he could tell I didn’t like it and he stated its for my office since I like music. however. we already have four blue tooth speakers. this felt like a white elephant gift not a 30tu birthday gift to a fiancé. we went to dinner but the whole vibe was off since now I felt disappointed and unseen. AITA for being sad about the gift?

Redditors quickly weighed in on whether she was being ungrateful…or simply reacting to feeling overlooked on a milestone birthday.

This person says NTA.

This person says no one can tell her how to feel in this situation.

And this person has a similar story and a good suggestion.

It’s not about the gift, it’s about realizing you were squeezed into the plan instead of being the plan.

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