September 24, 2026 at 5:55 pm

Roommates Agreed To Ask Each Other Before Having Overnight Guests, But One Retaliated After Being Told No

by Jayne Elliott

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Imagine sharing an apartment with a roommate, and you get along pretty well.

What would you do if your lease said you couldn’t have a guest spend the night unless your roommate said it was okay, but your roommate said it wasn’t okay? Would you let the friend stay over anyway, respect your roommate’s decision, or get revenge?

In this story, one woman is in this situation, and she’s definitely being petty. However, her roommate just might deserve it.

Keep reading for the whole story.

AITA for threatening to call the landlord if my roommate allows a guest to stay at our apartment?

I (20F) have a roommate (24M) and we split rent 50/50 for a two bed apartment.

We get along pretty well and have never had any problems.

As part of our renters agreement with the landlord, we’re only allowed one guest over at a time for a week max with the consent of the other roommate.

So if I want to have a friend stay with me for a few days, my roommate has to agree and vice versa.

So far, they haven’t had any problems.

We both have had friends over before and it’s always gone over peacefully.

We both also have had more than one friend over with no issues because we respected eachother’s space and belongings.

It’s important to note here that I’ve only ever invited over other women, and he’s only ever invited over other men.

Our guests also stay in our own bedrooms.

But then she had an urgent request to let a friend stay with them.

Three weeks ago, one of my friends, Mike (22M) needed a place to stay for three days because he was leaving an abusive partner.

I asked my roommate if it was alright to have him over for those three days. I explained the sensitivity of the situation and I promised, as always, to cover any extra expenses caused by Mike being over.

My roommate refused because he said he didn’t feel comfortable with a man being invited over.

I had no clue what he was talking about it and I was very annoyed, but I respected his choice. My friends and I put money together to get Mike a hotel room for those three days instead.

She decided to get back at him.

Today, my roommate asked if he could have two friends over for Friday and the Weekend.

I said no because it was against the renters rules.

He was confused because we’ve both agreed to break the rules before.

But I said to him that I didn’t feel comfortable with two strange men over.

He knew what she was doing.

He could tell straight away that I was doing it to annoy him because he didn’t let Mike stay over, plus I have met the friends he was inviting over before.

He told me to stop being childish because he has a right to refuse guests for being uncomfortable whereas I was doing it to be annoying.

What’s even more irritating is that he has met Mike before and they get along with eachother.

She refused to back down.

He then said he’d invite them over anyway.

But I said I’d call the landlord if he did so.

We got into an argument and he called me a jerk for threatening to call the landlord over this.

I still don’t think I’m wrong because I am allowed (in the agreement) to refuse guests for any reason but i would like an objective opinion. AITA?

I’m not sure why he rejected her request, but I completely understand why she wants to get him back. Maybe it’s petty, but he is technically violating the rules. She doesn’t have to go along with it.

Let’s see what Reddit thinks about this situation.

This person has a theory.

2026 09 14 at 11.45.40 PM Roommates Agreed To Ask Each Other Before Having Overnight Guests, But One Retaliated After Being Told No

Another person seems to be on OP’s side.

2026 09 14 at 11.46.05 PM Roommates Agreed To Ask Each Other Before Having Overnight Guests, But One Retaliated After Being Told No

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a renter who receives a text saying his landlord has passed and asking for checks to go to a different account, but he’s not sure it’s real.

Yes, this seems to be exactly what he’s saying.

2026 09 14 at 11.46.21 PM Roommates Agreed To Ask Each Other Before Having Overnight Guests, But One Retaliated After Being Told No

Here’s a suggestion of what she should tell her roommate.

2026 09 14 at 11.46.59 PM Roommates Agreed To Ask Each Other Before Having Overnight Guests, But One Retaliated After Being Told No

I like that last comment. He set a new precedent. The one time he said no was a time when her friend really needed a favor. It’s fine for him to say no, but it’s also fine for her to be upset about it and to say no as well. After all, she’s following the rules.

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Jayne Elliott | Contributing Writer, Life & Drama

Jayne Elliott is a contributing writer and editor for TwistedSifter specializing in human interest stories, internet culture, and family dynamics. With over 12 years of editorial experience in digital publishing, Jayne excels at analyzing complex online communities and transforming viral social debates into thoughtful, highly engaging narratives.

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