What would you do if your roommate woke you up in the middle of the night to check your room for intruders?

I would guess most people would find this behavior concerning, but in this case, the woman who directly dealt with it didn’t know what to do, so she just let her inspect her room while warning her this would be the last time.

Now she’s wondering if she’s in the wrong for establishing boundaries, since maybe her roommate has some sort of a point that she doesn’t understand.

What would you do in her situation?

Read the full story below.

AITA For Not Wanting My Roommate to Check My Room for ‘Kidnappers?’

I (28F) live with three other roommates. This post primarily concerns who I’ll call Roommate A (~24F).

We’ve lived together for about a year and a half now, and didn’t know each other prior to renting together.

Roommate A has always been kind of a paranoid person.

She has accused me and other roommates of doing drugs that caused her to have medical issues, then of stealing the hospital records.

She wasn’t aggressive about the accusations and they tended to be few and far between, so I figured I could put up with it.

But things got very worrying lately.

Then, a few days ago, she asked if we could have a ‘signal,’ in case someone was ‘being held hostage’ to let the others know we needed help.

I thought it was a little ridiculous, since we don’t live in a bad area, but I think she grew up somewhere unsafe and figured there was no harm in it.

Then, last night, when she got home (at 1:30 in the morning) she started banging on everyone’s doors saying it was an ’emergency.’

When we all got up, she said she wanted to look into everyone’s rooms to make sure there was no one in there.

She said she didn’t care about guests and wanted to know we weren’t being held hostage.

It was weird to say the least, and she acted accordingly.

I told her this was ridiculous and there was no reason to think anyone was in our rooms, but she insisted I should be ‘grateful’ that she was looking out for us and trying to check in with us.

She said we were all so ‘quiet’ that it made her uncomfortable because she would never know if anything was wrong.

I tried to tell her we were quiet because nothing was wrong, and we’d obviously say something if there was, but she just said ‘you never know.’

I let her in because I was tired and didn’t feel like arguing the point further, but I told her I wasn’t going to be letting her in in the future.

I’m pretty sure I’m not in the wrong for this, but I also did grow up in a pretty nice area, so maybe this is something people regularly do in areas where that’s a more significant risk?

AITA?

Yikes. What did Reddit have to say?

Something to consider.

Yup.

A reader shares their thoughts.

I agree.

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100%.

It’s already very concerning.

She definitely needs some sort of help, as soon as possible.

Waking up four people at 1:30 in the morning because you think their silence means they’re being held hostage is wild.