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I’ve never faced discrimination for being a tea drinker and not really liking coffee. Seems like a ridiculous notion.

Find out why it can actually happen.

AITA for not getting my DIL coffee because she hates tea.

My daughter-in-law loves coffee. She is the type of person that will go get coffee every morning. It is not uncommon that if she goes out to get coffee she will pick up coffee for other people as well.

The issue is she will never get me a tea or any tea lattes. As she puts it, it is leaf water that she doesn’t want to waste her money on.

I’m a tea person myself, so I already dislike this person.

I am asking her to get a 5 dollar thing of tea if she is already picking up everyone 8 dollars fancy coffees. I am asking for a tea latte or a an iced tea that I literally can’t make at the time.

So she comes back with everyone’s drink but mine. It is really frustrating on trips because I will be driving most of the time.

She takes everyone orders and goes in while I am either getting gas or snacks for the trip to come back with out any caffeine. Then I have to go into the shop to get my drink.

I can’t believe she regularly does this. She’d be in my bad books even if I hated tea.

There have been so many times she asked in the chat if anytime wants something at Starbucks, I tell her what I want and then she comes back with everyone drink but mine.

Talking to her doesn’t help. She just claims I can make it at home.

I was going over to babysit the grandkids for my son and daughter, so I sent a text saying I was stopping at Starbucks and asked if they wanted anything. This is the exact same thing she does.

They gave me their orders and I decided that I wouldn’t get my DIL’s her drink to make a point basically.

Her explanation is a double standard that I find ridiculous and offensive.

I got to where everyone was and gave everyone there drink besides my DIL. She was ticked and I pointed out this is the same thing she does with me all the time. She told me it wasn’t the same and I can make tea at home.

I told her to make her coffee at home and the pot was right there.

We got into a fight and my son told me to apologize and get her drink.

Good for her for not backing down. Things get better only when I demand respect.

I told him no and I am tired of this.

I have spoken to them multiple times and if she doesn’t change what she does I will never get her drink when I get drinks for others

They left but after babysitting I am still hearing about it.

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This made me laugh because what if it really was about tea? Like orange pekoe? Here’s a vendetta.

So would I. Some people are brazen about their toxicity.

I would! This is unacceptable. I wonder what the real issue is.

You mean coffee isn’t sorcery? I wouldn’t know as I have only ever made instant coffee.

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No there isn’t a way to fix this and it isn’t worth trying. You don’t have to pretend.

Woman has a peach of a daughter-in-law who thinks she can be rude to her and not expect rudeness in return.

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Ashley Ashbee

Ashley Ashbee | Contributing Writer, Workplace & Culture

Ashley Ashbee is a contributing writer for TwistedSifter specializing in workplace dynamics, employee advocacy, and professional culture. Drawing on her real-world experience as a software consultant, she brings a unique, insider perspective to navigating office conflicts, toxic management, and trending professional dilemmas.

Holding a degree in Professional Writing from York University, Ashley combines her formal editorial training with her corporate background to deliver highly engaging, empathetic narratives. She excels at breaking down complex workplace dramas and translating them into stories that truly empower and validate modern workers.

Based in St. Catharines, Ontario, Ashley balances her time between the tech and publishing worlds with her love for the outdoors. When she isn’t consulting or writing, she can usually be found exploring local walking trails or experimenting with new recipes in the kitchen.

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