Going through cancer treatments can be very draining.

This busy woman was diagnosed with cancer, so she asked her husband to take over some of her chores at home.

He doesn’t seem to realize how much help she’s going to need once she starts chemotherapy.

Read the full story below.

AITA for setting limits to do some of the housework/chores when I have just been diagnosed with cancer?

I am a 41-year-old female and married to a 48-year-old male.

We have been married for almost 13 years.

We have 3 kids (10, 9 with autism, and 4).

This woman and her husband take on the typical gender roles at home.

We have settled into typical gender roles.

I cook, clean, do laundry, and grocery shop weekly.

I take care of the kids. I take them to all of their appointments. I pick them up from school and take the day out of work, if they are sick.

He does the outside stuff (trash, landscaping, and shoveling for example).

But her husband has started to do less.

Over time though, he is doing less of the outside stuff.

I find myself taking over those roles (taking out recycling or bringing in the bins) because it will just pile up or stay outside for a week.

Or he has outsourced them (landscaper), so he no longer does these chores.

But I still do all of my “wifely” duties.

Her husband gets the kids ready for school.

My husbands main responsibility in the morning is that he gets the kids ready and he sends them to school on the bus.

He then goes downstairs to work from home.

But she normally cleans up after him.

When I come home from my full-time job, the house is a disaster from the morning routine.

I asked him to at least do dishes, but he said he doesn’t have time.

So I have to clean the house. All this, while I get the kids off the bus in the afternoon.

This has been the normal routine for the past year.

She also works part-time on weekends.

I also have a part-time job on the weekends, as well (5 hours each day).

It’s great for extra money.

It afforded us a down payment for our house and several trips to Disneyland.

He hates when I work, because he has to watch the kids by himself.

She was diagnosed with cancer.

I was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer in early January.

So, I realized that I need to slow down.

I can’t do everything that I have been doing, and he needs to step up.

Her husband thought he was already doing too much.

When I tell him this, he says he does not feel this way and he is doing plenty.

I know, right now, I am able to do things, but I will be starting chemotherapy soon, and I am not sure how I will feel.

I am going to take time out from both jobs because of this.

He refused to take over some of her chores.

My husband is under the assumption that I will be sick for a few days during which, “he has to do everything,” but I will be able to continue doing my routine once I am feeling better.

I have already told him don’t expect it.

I said I will do what I can, but he is not convinced.

She doesn’t feel that she can do everything when treatment begins.

I am willing to continue to do some of the chores, but I can’t do everything that I have been doing.

AITA for expecting my husband to pick up the slack while I am going through cancer?

Her husband really needs to be willing to do more than his fair share considering the circumstances.

Let’s see what others have to say about this on Reddit.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

You deserve to be taken care of, says this person.

This person claims OP is battling two cancers.

Here’s a positive message from this user.

And lastly, someone thinks way ahead.

It’s the husband’s responsibility to step up at home and care for his wife.

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