August 13, 2025 at 11:55 am

Her New Neighbor Wanted To Be Friends, But She Shot That Idea Down Immediately

by Matthew Gilligan

two women having a conversation

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One of my favorite lines in the movie Cable Guy is when Matthew Broderick tells Jim Carrey, “I just don’t have any time for new friends.”

And it’s true!

For a lot of folks, the older you get, the more you stick to your core group and you’re not looking to branch out as much.

But not everyone feels that way, apparently…

Check out what this woman had to say on Reddit and see if you think she did anything wrong.

AITA for telling the new neighbor I don’t see us being friends?

“My husband (36m) and I (29f) have lived in our neighborhood for about 5 years. Our house is towards the edge of the complex, and neither of us are very social, so we keep to ourselves. The rest of the people in our area tend to do so, as well.

We had someone that moved in down the street maybe a month or so ago. Didn’t really know much about them except I noticed when we drove by that it looked like they had young children and that they had some political signs out in front that indicated we were on pretty much opposite sides of the political spectrum.

Here we go…

Two days ago there was a knock on the door. I opened it because I was expecting a package, and it was a woman about my age. She introduced herself as the new neighbor and started talking a mile a minute.

She told me that she had three children, was a SAHM, was new to the area, and some other stuff that I don’t really remember. Then she started peppering me with questions and seemed to get more and more disappointed as I answered.

She asked if I had children (no), did we plan on having children (no), do I know any of the social activities in the area (no), do I know any local mom groups (confused no), do I every babysit (hard no).

You get the picture.

Listen, lady…

She seemed to run out of steam and almost pouted and said it didn’t seem like we did much at all. I laughed and told her that my husband and I preferred things quiet and kept to ourselves, but that the neighborhood seemed to get a bit more busy and social closer to the center of it because there was a school so maybe she could find something more what she was looking for there.

She said she was hoping to get to know her close neighbors and told me to come over for coffee sometime and I could meet her kids and husband.

Sorry, but no…

I thanked her politely but was honest and told her it didn’t seem like we had much in common and I couldn’t really see us being friends, but that I was sure she could find a good mom group at the playground towards the center of the neighborhood.

She got visibly angry and asked if my husband was as big of an ******* as I was and I thought for a moment then said, yeah. She stomped off. I might have been an ******* because I was direct and didn’t give her much of a chance but I just don’t think we would have mixed well.

AITA?”

Let’s see how readers reacted to this story.

This person said they both suck.

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Another reader said she’s NTA.

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This Reddit user agreed.

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Another individual weighed in.

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And this person spoke up.

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She’s just not interested in making new friends.

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