Teaching someone to drive requires patience, and some people have more of it than others.

A new driver who genuinely wanted to get her hours in and work toward her license had been avoiding practice sessions because her father’s explosive reaction to small mistakes made the whole experience more stressful than useful.

So when he was already in a bad mood and offered to let her drive, she said no — and he took that as an opportunity to tell her and his friends that she never put in the effort.

So when she finally told him the reason behind her hesitation, it didn’t go over well.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITA for refusing to drive if I’m in my father’s car?

I (18F) got my G1 in February and I’ve only driven twice.

I want to drive really badly and be ready for my G2.

The problem comes down to her father’s overly rough approach to teaching her.

However the main car we use is my father’s and I can’t handle him yelling at me instead of gently correcting me.

He asks me if I’m driving, and deep down I want to say “yes, of course” because I want to drive — I really do.

He seems to forget that this is literally her first time learning.

However, my father gets angry at me if I turn too sharply or go below the speed limit by like 5.

I haven’t driven in a way that I should get yelled at for — like almost running a red light or a stop sign.

Yesterday my father asked if I wanted to drive.

The two don’t seem to be on the same page at all.

I said no because he wasn’t in a good mood that day and was already upset.

He then proceeded to say “you never drive,” and he tells all of his friends I don’t try.

So finally the conflict comes to a head.

So I snapped back and said, “Maybe I’d drive if you stopped yelling at me for going 5 above or below the speed limit.”

He then lectured me the entire car ride.

AITA?

Scared drivers make bad drivers.

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What did Reddit have to say?

If her father wants her to be open with driving with him, he needs to work on his approach.

Communication is key, and this teen is already on the right track.

Maybe learning to drive was never supposed to be a pleasant experience.

It’s hard to see how yelling at your child is supposed to make them a better driver.

She wanted to drive — she said that clearly. What she did not want was to be yelled at every time she went slightly under the speed limit on her second attempt behind the wheel ever.

When she finally said that out loud, he turned it into a lecture, which is roughly the same response that created the problem in the first place.

She was not avoiding the road. She was avoiding the noise that came with it.

New drivers don’t need a perfect record — they need a patient passenger.