Imagine being married with kids. It would be important to find a balance between taking care of the kids, making time for your spouse, and work. What works for one family may not work for another family.

In this story, one woman went to nursing school while taking care of the kids. During this time, her husband worked 70 hours a week to pay the bills. Now, the roles have reversed. She has her degree and is working as a nurse while her husband stays home with the kids since her job pays better than his did.

The problem isn’t the role reversal. The problem is that her husband thinks she should be working more hours than she is. She disagrees.

Keep reading to see whose side you’re on.

AITA for being mad about spouse saying I need to work overtime

So my spouse supported me through nursing school,(I went to school and did the wife/mom stuff)

He worked 50-70 hours a week and we eeked by financially for those four years while I earned my bachelor’s in nursing.

When I graduated we agreed that I would work and he would be the stay at home dad since it didn’t make sense for him to work with what he would earn and pay for daycare.

Here’s her work schedule…

I work three minimum 12-hour shifts a week.

One of my checks easily covers what he made in a month.

We are slowly getting caught up over the last 5 months that I’ve started working.

But he wants her to work even more.

However, he is asking that I work an extra shift every week, as he puts it to “benefit the family”

He says its only 48 hours a week and he worked more than that when he was working to support us and basically I should do the same.

I do sign up for extra shifts although we don’t always get them because of low workload. (not enough patients on my unit)

He thinks I should float to other areas of the hospital for the extra hours.

There are several reasons she doesn’t want to work another shift.

I’m new and don’t feel comfortable yet in other areas, I’m afraid I’m going to get burnt out.

When I got hired I purposely picked nights since it pays more and I’ve recently signed a contract to work every weekend for the next year because there was a substantial pay incentive so I feel like I’m doing my part already.

AITA for not wanting to work an extra day every week.

Her reasons for not wanting to pick up an extra shift make sense. Whether or not she should pick up an extra shift anyway probably depends on how tight their financial situation is.

Let’s see what Reddit suggests.

This person thinks her husband should get a part-time job.

Someone who works in the medical field weighs in.

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A nurse is on her side.

But this person takes the husband’s side.

I’m not sure what type of work her husband does/did, but there are some career fields (like the medical field), where it’s vital not to be tired or make any mistakes. It sounds like she currently has a decent work-life balance, but if she pushes herself to take on another shift, it might be too much. It wouldn’t be worth the risk of making a mistake at work. People’s lives are literally in her hands.

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