Family expectations can sometimes feel overwhelming.

In this story, a woman was pressured by her relatives to tutor her nephew despite their past hurtful behavior.

She had been searching for a job and dealing with criticism from the same family members who were now demanding her help.

Although she considered suggesting a professional tutor, they insisted she take responsibility instead.

Check out the full details below.

AITA for refusing to help my nephew in his studies?

I (23F) am living with my semi-conservative joint family. It is a common practice here.

I have been on a job hunt for a year now after quitting my last work.

Recently, I was asked to help my nephew with his mathematics.

It was more like I was told, ordered, and even semi scolded by my eldest uncle and his son.

This woman didn’t get along well with her uncle’s family.

My cousin was kinder in his words.

My nephew is in eighth grade.

If it had been another family, except my eldest uncle’s, I might have agreed. Maybe I still would not have.

Her family isn’t very nice to her.

I have been mocked several times by my eldest aunt for being unable to land a job.

Their family has been barely kind to us. By us, I mean my family.

We have had a lot of nasty interactions with them in the past.

Also, I have been feeling pretty sensitive over a lot of things recently.

She felt like they were taking advantage of her kindness.

For context, I am always seen as a docile, obedient good girl.

This choice of mine made my life half hell. It is the very cause of my misery.

I am too tired of being polite to people anymore.

I tried to tell my eldest uncle it would be proper to have the kid tutored by a professional. Someone in the field.

But I got scolded off. They still expect me to teach him.

Now, she’s wondering if it’s okay to say no to the request.

I have not refused directly to my cousin or uncle yet, but I plan to.

I do not have anything personal against the kid. He is a child after all. He really needs some serious tutoring. He is very weak in his academics.

But I feel like a pushover. Am I the jerk? Am I being too sensitive? Or am I a pushover?

To be honest, this situation feels unfair given how OP has been treated by them.

Being expected to help while also being criticized clearly crosses a line.

It’s reasonable for her to prioritize her own well-being and not feel forced into it. After all, they can always hire a professional tutor for the kid, right?

Let’s see how others reacted to this story on Reddit.

This person gives their honest opinion.

Here’s some useful advice.

Short and simple.

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Respect isn’t a favor you earn by saying yes to everything.