Twins share plenty by default, but sharing every hobby can make individuality feel impossible.

One 16-year-old keeps losing interests to his brother, so when even poetry gets copied, would you stay patient or finally snap?

Quitting wrestling and MMA only deepens the frustration, because the problem follows him far beyond any single activity.

Let’s check this one out.

AITA for telling my twin brother to stop copying me and to get his own life

So for some context, I 16M have a twin brother, also 16M who I’ll call Jake.

Jake has always copied me, and I don’t know why. At first I wasn’t too annoyed but now It’s really grating on me.

He noticed a pattern.

So far I’ve never had a hobby that has been my own, because the moment I joined he was right there with me.

We have the same social group as well, and it’s really starting to annoy me that he’s always there. Whatever interests I have.

I like MMA, I’m in the wrestling team, and I like writing poetry. He always has to watch the same shows, films, and read the same books as me.

Even if he doesn’t understand it, if I’m reading/watching, he will.

Even in the more niche things, his brother will take notice and take action.

My friend/writing buddy Natalie suggested I read Paradise Lost, and I saw him reading that exact book even though he probably can’t even comprehend it.

When I joined the wrestling team he kept bragging to the others how the coach let me in based on his recommendation, even though I joined first. He just copied me.

He feels like he’s being spied on.

The only safe haven I had was writing poetry because he didn’t know I did it.

Natalie and I usually meet at the library to discuss our work and other interesting authors like Kafka or Tolstoy.

We were talking about a certain book in the halls, and I saw my brother reading it this afternoon.

Things didn’t feel like his own anymore.

I quit the wrestling team recently because my brother was getting on my nerves, I left MMA for a similar reason.

My mom asked me at dinner why I quit and I didn’t go into it.

She pressed me for an answer and I snapped and said because he always bloody follows me everywhere.

We have the same friend group, same everything, and I yelled at him to leave me the hell alone and get his own life.

But his parents don’t understand his side of the story.

My mom said that he just wants to be closer, and I replied that the problem was that he was too close. I literally had no space to develop my own personality away from him.

My mom said I was being rude and ungrateful and sent me to my room.

It’s really upsetting to him.

Honestly, I feel like he is that creature from that Midnight episode from Doctor Who.

My dad sided with my mom and said he would have loved to have a brother like that.

I’m planning on joining my school’s literature/writing club, so hopefully my brother leaves me alone then, since I can’t imagine he has any original thoughts.

AITA?

Whether his parents agree or not, identity theft is not a joke, and millions of families suffer every year.

But let’s see if Reddit has any insights into this situation.

A twin shares their experience.

Some advice.

This reader shares their opinion.

This person has a different take.

Another reader chimes in.

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Yup.

He had already given up multiple hobbies just to create space, yet his brother kept drifting into whatever he tried next.

Their parents saw closeness, but he saw a complete lack of room to build an identity of his own.

And sometimes we need a little space in that regard.

Being twins is already a package deal; apparently this one came with unlimited add-ons.