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There’s a big difference between being asked for a favor and being told you’re doing one.

A woman got a text from a friend announcing that she’d be picking up the friend’s daughter and driving her to work.

The daughter had just landed her first job at the same warehouse where the woman works, with a 4 a.m. start and no buses running that early.

The daughter doesn’t have a license, and she lives out of the woman’s way, which means leaving fifteen to twenty minutes earlier than usual. The woman already wakes up before the crack of dawn, so that extra bit of sleep is everything to her.

She agreed to help once, but questions how to prevent the arrangement from solidifying into a full-time gig.

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AITA for not wanting to lose sleep to drive someone elses kid to work?

Got a text from a friend telling me I’d be picking her kid up and taking her to work starting tomorrow. Didn’t ask, told me.

Her daughter (18F) just got her first job at the warehouse where I (38F) work as a pick packer.

That’s when she started questioning why this task was somehow being forced on her.

I’m stoked for her, but I’m not keen on being expected to chauffeur her to work every day.

She doesn’t have a license, and the buses don’t run early enough for our 4 a.m. start.

She tried to be nice, but worried her kindness would soon be taken advantage of.

I said yes to tomorrow, but I’m pretty sure this is going to become an ongoing thing.

She’s out of my way. I’d have to leave 15-20 minutes earlier every day, and I’m up at 2:40 a.m. as it is. That extra 15-20 minute sleep-in is EVERYTHING to me.

AITA if I tell my friend I’ll help out tomorrow, but I’m not doing daily lifts?

Sounds like this woman needs to nip this in the bud sooner rather than later.

What did Reddit have to say?

The least the mom can do is help out a little.

This user provides a potential script.

It’s important to set strong boundaries.

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Her friend wasn’t really acting in good faith by forcing this arrangement on her.

This woman agreed to a ride before she was ever officially asked for one, and that’s the whole problem.

A friend who texts “you’re driving her tomorrow” has skipped the courteous part where you actually ask for that person’s permission.

Saying yes to one day was generous, arguably more generous than the situation called for.

Her sleep isn’t up for debate, and neither are her boundaries.

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Benjamin Cottrell

Benjamin Cottrell | Assistant Editor, Internet Culture

Benjamin Cottrell is an Assistant Editor and contributing writer at TwistedSifter, specializing in internet culture, viral social dynamics, and the moral complexities of online communities. He brings a highly analytical, editorial voice to his reporting on workplace conflicts, malicious compliance, and interpersonal drama, with a specific focus on nuanced stories that lack an obvious villain.

As a published author of rhetorical criticism, Benjamin leverages his academic background in human communication to dissect and elevate viral social media threads. Instead of simply summarizing events, he provides readers with balanced, deep-dive commentary into why the internet reacts the way it does. In addition to his cultural reporting, he is an experienced fine art photography essayist and video game reviewer.

When he isn’t analyzing the latest viral debates, Benjamin is usually chipping away at his extensive video game backlog, hunting down the best new restaurants, or out exploring the city with a camera in hand.

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