I’m gonna go out on a limb here and venture to guess that this woman and her brother-in-law have had some issues in the past…

Just a hunch!

But either way, did she act like an a**hole for yelling at him?

Read on and see what you think.

AITA for yelling at my brother-in-law after he woke me up and told me to make dinner while we were staying at his house?

“I 39f my husband Tom 37m and 2 sons 12m were recently in a house fire and lost our home but luckily we were all out the house when this happened. Tom’s brother Sean 40m and his wife agreed to let us stay at his place with their kids while we sort out insurance.

I don’t like Sean as he believes in a traditional gender roles in a household. We have had issues since he realised I would keep my maiden name at work, which I informed him was none of his business and my personal choice. He works full time and his wife is a housewife.

When we had our sons, Sean thought I would quit my job as a doctor and become a SAHM. However Tom became a SAHD instead and then went back to work after our son went to school and doesn’t share the same thought process as Sean. Sean clearly disproves of this and me and vocalised his thoughts about the situation.

I got Tom to speak to Sean and he has left us alone since, but occasionally used to make comments at holidays and birthdays about it which I ignored. They stopped when Tom returned to work and since then Tom says Sean has grown as a person.

Tom and Sean are very close, and I would never tell him to stop talking to him, but I personally interact as less as possible with Sean. My sons’ school and Tom’s workplace is walking distance from Sean’s house which is why I agreed to stay, and suck it up while we get back on our feet as it is temporary.

Yesterday was a very hectic day at work, and I was exhausted. My shift ended midday and I went straight to bed. Everyone was out the house; Sean and Tom went to work, the kids were at school and Sean’s wife went to see a friend. Sean got home first and woke me up.

I was upset and still tired and when I asked him why, he said I should make a start on dinner as it was getting late and his wife was out and not picking up her phone. Usually I do the cooking in the house with his wife, but I was upset that Sean had woken me up and yelled at him to not disturb me. I kicked him out the room and told him I was going to back sleep and he could sort out his own dinner.

When I woke up that evening, Sean told me that while I was under his house I needed to respect his house rules. I told him he could’ve cooked himself, heated leftovers in the fridge or got takeaway. Tom thinks that Sean did overstep by waking me up and making demands, but I shouldn’t have yelled and escalated the situation.”

Here’s what people had to say on Reddit.

One person said she’s NTA and his rules were unreasonable.

Another individual made a very good point…

And this Reddit user pointed out that she’s a DOCTOR and she needs her sleep.

Waking somebody up to start making dinner?

Jeezus… bro, cook your own food!