Sweet 16…

Do you remember when you hit that landmark age?

You probably had some kind of little shindig, right?

It’s a rite of passage for a lot of kids, and a mom asked the fine folks on Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page if she acted like a jerk for canceling her daughter’s 16th birthday party.

Get all the details below and see if you think she went too far.

WIBTA for cancelling my daughter’s 16th birthday party after warning her about it a year ago?

“For my daughter’s 15th birthday, my spouse and I paid for her to take some of her friends out to a restaurant for dinner. During this dinner/party, my daughter got into an argument with one of her friends (15F).

Apparently my daughter was upset that this friend gave her a cheap gift bought from a thrift store. According to her best friend (15F), who told us what happened, my daughter seemed to like the gift at first and asked her friend where she bought it from.

When the girl admitted it was from a thrift store, that is when my daughter lost it and called her names like cheap, golddigger, beggar (translated from my language, it roughly means cheap) and other classist insults.

Now it is well known that this friend’s family is not well off, but I know that she is a sweet girl who did her best to get my daughter a gift with her meager allowance.

My spouse and I confronted our daughter about it and she admitted she insulted her friend. She went on to insult her further by saying things like – this is probably the only way she gets to eat at a restaurant so she should be grateful and give a decent gift. I don’t know where my daughter learnt such entitlement, but she did not learn it at home. Even her best friend was uncomfortable by her behavior.

We immediately took away all her gifts and donated them. We also told her that unless she apologizes to this girl in front of everyone who was present at the party, we will not be sponsoring any more of her birthdays. My daughter never apologized, and over time, the girl drifted apart from the friend group.

My daughter’s 16th birthday is coming up next month and she has started talking about what kind of party she wants. I reminded her of our promise that we would not fund any more birthday parties until she has apologized for her behavior at her previous party.

Daughter is saying it’s been a year and the girl is no longer her friend anyway. She said her best friend is getting a sweet 16 party (not a thing in my culture) and how will it look if she doesn’t get one? We told her she still has a month to apologize, but she is not planning to do it because she thinks we’ll cave.

My in-laws are offering to pay for her party, but we have forbidden them from doing that. Daughter and both sets of grandparents are telling us that we are being too harsh and ruining her social life.

WIBTA If we don’t give her a birthday party this year?”

Here’s what people had to say on Reddit.

This person said they’re NTA and they did the right thing.

Another reader also said they’re NTA and they made a good point.

And this Reddit user said they’re NTA and they need to stick to this plan.

I personally think it’s a good life lesson if she doesn’t get her party.

Play stupid games, get stupid prizes.