After months of hard work, a couple finally buys their first home and is still adjusting to the new city and lifestyle.

When the sister asks to host her big birthday bash at their barely unpacked house, they decline.

Read on for the story!

AITA for not allowing my sister to have her birthday party in my house?

My husband (26M) and I (24F) just bought our first home recently, and we’ve worked incredibly hard to get here.

We don’t come from money, and everything we have, we’ve earned ourselves.

We are very close to my side of the family and see them nearly every day.

I’ve always kinda been the black sheep of the family because I am the only one that has set boundaries.

Anyway, a week after my husband and I moved in, my (26 F) sister sent me an invitation to her birthday party, which she planned to hold at our new house.

I want to note that she had briefly asked me about hosting the party here a few days earlier, and I told her I wasn’t sure because we still had a lot of unpacking to do.

Sounds like she’s hoping you’ll “unpack” your boundaries for her birthday.

Clearly, that wasn’t a concern for her, and she went ahead and made the invitation days later, inviting extended family who live several hours away and would need to stay a night or two.

Since we’re still settling in, we don’t have extra beds or much furniture yet, and my husband and I didn’t feel ready to host what felt like a large gathering so soon.

When we haven’t even planned a housewarming party yet. Both of us work full time and have limited time to unpack, so things are moving slowly.

I told my sister that we’d be open to having a smaller, more intimate celebration—just immediate family and maybe one or two close friends.

I also explained that this move has been a huge transition for me, and I’m still getting used to the new city and lifestyle, and while I wanted to celebrate her, I didn’t feel ready for a big party.

Sounds like your sister’s idea of “settling in” is more like “settling for your plans.”

After that, she stopped responding to me.

The next day, I went to my parents’ house during my lunch break, and my dad came outside to tell me that they don’t want to see me.

He said I was being selfish for turning down my sister’s request, that I had hurt the whole family.

Now my family refuses to speak to me until I apologize, and they’ve called me ungrateful and a narcissist.

I don’t know if I was in the wrong or if I made a big deal about it and unintentionally hurt my family.

So, AITA?

So despite explaining their reasons, the family accuses them of being selfish, ungrateful, and narcissistic.

Now, they’re questioning if they were in the wrong for not accommodating the request.

What does Reddit think?

This person thinks the family is acting like jerks.

This person thinks there’s some favoritism going on.

This person is simply appalled.

Seems like the real party crashers are the family, not the boundaries.

These people are treating her appallingly.

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