April 8, 2024 at 3:43 pm

Bride-To-Be Demanded Specific Rules For The Best Man’s Speech And Much More, So He Didn’t Hold Back When He Finally Got A Chance To Speak His Truth

by Matthew Gilligan

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The truth can hurt, huh?

You can say that again!

And the guy who wrote this story on Reddit’s “Am I the *******?” page is curious to know if people think he went too far when he gave a toast at a wedding.

Take a look and see what you think.

AITA telling the truth in the wedding toast?

“I’m a 30 year old male and my best friend got married last week.

I just bought a house and my wife is expecting out son in November, so I let him know I was limited in what I could contribute financially, but did tell him I would try my best.

He did his best.

So, I wend to the bachelor party in Maine, I rented the tux, and paid for mine and my wife’s dinner at the rehearsal dinner. I also had a gift of $300 that I was going to give them, but we will get to why I didn’t give it to them.

He was overwhelemed.

His (now wife, then fiance) texted me multiple times a day with updates–fine. I didn’t always respond and it got to the point where if I didn’t respond at LEAST once a day, I’d get a call from my buddy.

I have a full time job and am redoing some rooms in my house, so I’m busy.

She texted me for the following reasons:

  • My wife was NOT allowed to talk about our pregnancy, at all.
  • She didn’t want anyone to focus on that more than her, the bride.
  • She was NOT going to order special food for my wife. No one asked her to, my wife was fine with whatever she was going to be served.
  • I was not helping the groom enough, he had to help her with favors, seating charts and programs, so I had to help him with those things, according to her.
  • She also said to get ready to help with thank you notes after the wedding.
  • She said if I was a true best man, I would offer to pay for the bar bill.

I don’t even know what that means.

Here’s the kicker.

She had to read a approve my speech before the rehearsal dinner and wanted to be included as much as my buddy.

She told me to make up things if I had to. I was also NOT allowed to include anyone but the two of them and no inside jokes or stories about my buddy that didn’t include her.

Her last text said to tell my wife to keep it together and not make a pregnancy scene during the wedding. Also, she wanted her to choose a dress that downplayed her pregnancy as much as possible.

I was just so aggravated, I spoke to my friend to see if he could reason with her. He told me to just play ball on this one, it’s her day and to cut him a break, because he’d be dealing with her nonsense for the rest of his life.

I was annoyed but calmed down.

The day of, all the bride and my buddy do is scold me, berate me and bark orders.

I head down to the bar for the a drink…the bride’s mother is there and warns me not to get intoxicated because I’ve ruined her daughter’s day enough.

Final straw.

He didn’t hold back…

I didn’t give them the card with the cash and in the speech, I used my friend’s exact wording about having to deal with her nonsense for the rest of his life.

I wished them the best and told him I’d always be there for him, especially during the divorce.


Check out what folks had to say on Reddit.

This person thinks they all suck and explained why.

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Another reader shared their thoughts.

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This individual said he was wrong.

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Another Reddit user said he should’ve just stayed away from the wedding.

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And this person had a lot to say…

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Yeah… this is the very definition of a Bridezilla.


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