May 18, 2024 at 11:51 pm

Widower Got Into A Relationship Quickly After His Wife’s Demise, But After His Daughter Was Rude To His New Girlfriend, He Cancelled Her Tuition Payments

by Trisha Leigh

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There’s no easy path through grief, and I imagine that losing your mother unexpectedly at a young age is one of the hardest things imaginable.

Add to it a father who moves on what seems like – in your mind – quickly, and you’ve got a recipe for some pretty big feelings.

This widower lost his wife unexpectedly at a fairly young age.

AITA if I stop paying my daughter’s tuition over a disgusting comment she made towards my new girlfriend?

My (56M) wife died at the young age of 51 from a car accident.

I was in deep mourning for about a year after her death.

He’s since met another woman he’s fallen head over heels in love with.

I met my new GF C (43F) around January.

C was the one who made me laugh for the first time after my wife died.

She’s smart as hell (3 Ivy League degrees), has a dark sense of humor that I love, a terrific cook, and overall an amazing woman who I can imagine spending the rest of my life with.

She is also on the heavier side, a fact that becomes relevant later.

His son has taken the news fairly well but his daughter has not.

I have 2 children, E (25M) and A (19F).

They were well aware that I had gotten a new GF before I first introduced them to C this summer.

She got along immediately with E, but A was very very standoffish.

After that initial meeting I asked A if there was something wrong but she denied it.

C made a few more attempts to get to know A but they were all rudely rejected.

Things came to a head at Thanksgiving.

E and A both came home for Thanksgiving dinner.

I asked A to please be polite during the meal since she’s always been rude in her interactions with C even though C has been nothing but gracious in return.

The dinner was going as well as it could have for the first 10 minutes, although I noticed A glaring at C the entire time.

When C went to grab her third helping of mashed potatoes, A said “Don’t you think you’ve eaten enough, you fat pig?”

C started sobbing immediately and ran off into the bedroom. I felt my face turn red and told A to get out.

Now this dad is making big threats – and following through on them, too.

About half an hour after A left I texted her stating that I would no longer pay her tuition unless 1. She apologized to C and 2. C accepts her apology.

A must have assumed that I was bluffing because she instead doubled down on her behavior during Thanksgiving dinner.

I then logged into her university’s tuition payment website, canceled next semester’s tuition, and sent A the screenshots.

She called me crying and begging me to reconsider but I told her my mind was made up.

Does Reddit think he’s doing the right thing?

This person thinks dad needs to take a deep breath and a step back.

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They think he needs to try harder to empathize with his daughter.

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It would honestly be hard for anyone.

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Those holidays after loss are fraught with emotion.

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Some weren’t so sympathetic, though.

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I think his daughter does deserve some more grace.

That said, she definitely owes her dad’s girlfriend an apology as well.

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