Having a baby is a lot of work, and most moms need some help for a few days or weeks after the birth.

What happens when the new mom is asking you to completely take over all chores for an extended period of time?

That is what is being asked of the mother-in-law in this story, and she’s not having it.

You’re going to want the details!

AITA for refusing to a help visit for my DIL and son since they won’t allow me to stay in their home

My son married Sierra ( fake names) and they live two states over.

Sierra is from a culture where it is customary after she gives birth she will not do any household chores.

That is a nice tradition.

The family members (mostly women) will go over and do all those chores.

So cooking, cleaning, shopping etc.

She explained this to me and it happens for a few weeks after the birth.

I can imagine why she isn’t close to them.

She is not close to her family and it was asked of me to come up for a few weeks and do this.

My son will be back on call a week and a half after she gives birth.

She is suppose to give birth in about a month and I was talking about logistics of the whole thing.

Wow, that is pretty entitled.

I asked were I would sleep and she informed me that I will need to get a hotel.

This shocked me since they own a nice home.

I thought it over and decided I do not want to do this.

I was already going to be doing them a huge favor by being a live in maid.

I was going to use all my PTO for this and now I will have to also live in a hotel.

This isn’t even a culture I am a part of.

I certainly don’t blame her.

I informed her that I will not be able to come up for the time she wanted if I have to stay in a hotel.

I am willing to come up for a weekend at most if I can not stay in their home.

I got a call from my son and he is pissed.

What is he thinking?

He told me that Sierra has been crying since and that I am being a jerk.

That I am disrespecting her culture and rejecting her from the family.

That he knows I could afford this (I could but I don’t want to pay thousand of dollars to be a maid).

We got into an argument.

I explained my points about but he wasn’t having it.

AITA?

Traditions are important but this sounds like it is just taking advantage.

Let’s see what the people in the comments thought.

It is very rude.

I’m sure there are other factors that go into this tradition.

I would be curious about this as well.

Asking for a place to sleep isn’t a lot.

They are really expecting a lot here.

Well, it is my tradition not to waste my money and PTO on an entitled daughter-in-law.

I think most people would agree.

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.