When planning your kid’s birthday, you expect to focus on cake, decorations, and invites—not family guilt trips.

But what happens when your brother pushes his parenting duties onto you, turning your son’s celebration into a double birthday bash?

One mom is tired of playing party planner for two, but will she end up the bad guy for saying no?

Read on for the story.

WIBTA for excluding my niece in a birthday celebration?

My son and niece are the same age and were born within two weeks of one another.

When we planned my son’s first birthday party, my brother insisted that we make it a double birthday celebration for both kids because it would be more convenient.

His actual biggest reason was that he didn’t want to plan a separate party for his daughter because it was “too stressful and complicated” and “you’re already throwing [son] a party, and you might as well include [niece] in it too.”

My brother also said that if we didn’t include niece in the celebration, then I would be a terrible aunt for making her miss out on her first birthday party.

Which ultimately meant that he and my SIL weren’t going to throw her one separately.

That’s a little much, no?

My husband and I agreed because we wanted both kids to be celebrated.

I didn’t want my niece to look back at old photos and videos and wonder why our son always got a party and she didn’t.

Now, my husband and I are discussing our son’s third birthday. We like to plan a few months in advance to book the place, figure out catering, and so on.

We mentioned a few dates to our families, and my brother immediately said that he’d get back to us on dates that my SIL’s family would be free so that we could also celebrate niece’s birthday.

Dude, let it go.

I told him that we were only celebrating son’s birthday because we are the ones doing the planning, spending the money, and taking care of invites, decorations, etc.

My brother once again brought up that I might as well include niece as a birthday celebrant because her birthday is right after son’s, and I would be cruel to just exclude her. He and SIL still won’t throw her her own party.

Can you say “relentless”?

I honestly don’t like being guilted into doing something for my niece because of my brother’s laziness and lack of motivation to party plan.

It’s toxic and annoying, and as much as I do love my niece, it’s not up to me to ensure that her birthday is always celebrated, right?

But our parents are torn because they say I should just do it and be the aunt who is supportive and who gives my niece a party so that she has these pictures and videos to look back on down the road.

I think they should talk to my brother and tell him to step up and do their own thing instead of pushing everything onto me and my husband.

So WIBTA?

The line between being a caring aunt and an unpaid event coordinator is getting blurry.

Reddit says never. And stop. Now.

This person says it’s going to continue if she starts now.

And this person has a select choice of words to tell her brother.

This person says this isn’t on her at ALL.

It’s a birthday, not a buy-one-get-one-free sale.

This guy is annoying as all get out.

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