Some parents can really mess up their relationship with their children and except things to go back to normal without much accountability.

It’s sad but it happens.

This is the story of a dad who disowned her daughter and later wanted to walk her down the aisle.

Check out the full story!

AITAH because I didn’t invite my father to my wedding because years ago he told me I was no longer part of his family.

I’m 28F and will be getting married next month.

I didn’t invite my father to the wedding, but now he’s trying to get in touch.

The past was rough…

I think I need to explain the context, because it all started when I was 6 years old, when my parents got divorced after my dad cheated on my mom with my stepmother.

After that, I spent most of my time with my mom, but during holidays and vacations, I stayed with my dad.

When I was 8, my half-brother Jake (20M) was born, and whenever I was with my dad, I was forced to take care of him.

When I started high school, I had to move in with my dad because my mom had to move abroad for work.

This period was one of the hardest of my life.

She was never a priority…

My stepmother wasn’t a bad person; she tried to include me in things, but she was very submissive to my father.

As for my dad, he always treated me like an “extra” in the house, someone who didn’t really belong there.

I was constantly responsible for taking care of Jake, and whenever he went out, he would only take my stepmother and Jake, never inviting me.

One of the most painful experiences happened when I was 14.

My dad announced that the whole family was going to Disney for vacation, but the day before the trip, he told me that he wanted it to be a “family moment,” their first big trip with Jake.

They were very mean to her!

So, I was left home alone.

This had already become a pattern—trips to the beach, zoos, or other outings always included just my stepmother and Jake while I was left behind.

My dad didn’t like me going out with friends or inviting them over.

He said, “teenagers together only cause trouble,” and because he was controlling, he would call the house phone at random times to check if I was home.

He also had a trusted neighbor who would keep an eye on me to make sure I didn’t have any visitors.

When I turned 16, living with him, the feeling of being an “extra” only got worse.

Everything I had experienced during vacations—the exclusion and sense of abandonment—became part of my daily life.

This is where things get bad…

Things came to a head when I turned 18.

My dad got a promotion at work and decided to take a “family” trip to Europe.

Since it was my last year of high school, I was excited, thinking I’d finally be included.

But then he told me he didn’t have enough money for a trip for four, so it would just be to celebrate Jake’s 10th birthday.

I had to stay home.

That’s when I snapped.

I told him he was being unfair and that he shouldn’t have given me false hope.

I explained how I’d felt over the past years, and he called me ungrateful and spoiled, saying that I lived with him rent-free (which was a lie since my mom sent money to support me and I did all the housework because both he and my stepmother worked late).

That’s INSANE!

The argument escalated, and he kicked me out of the house, saying I was no longer part of the family and not even his daughter.

He literally threw me out and tossed my things onto the sidewalk.

Luckily, a friend lived nearby, and I stayed at her place that night.

The next day, I went back to see if my dad had calmed down, but I found my things still on the sidewalk, and some even in the trash.

My stepmother had kindly saved a few items for me and handed them over.

After that, my dad never reached out, except to call and yell at me a month later when my mom stopped sending him money for my expenses.

She finally started getting her life together…

A few months later, I got into an engineering program in another state, where I met my now-fiancé, Mark (29M).

He was a senior, and we soon connected, realizing we had a lot in common.

We started dating, graduated, and now work in the same field, though at different companies.

A few months ago, Mark proposed, and I happily said yes.

I have social media, but I rarely use it—I’ve had Instagram for about six years but haven’t even posted 10 pictures.

The news broke out…

I think one of my relatives must have told my dad about the wedding because, about a month after I accepted the proposal, he reached out to me through Instagram, saying he was excited to help with the wedding.

I was surprised, both that he had messaged me and that he genuinely thought he would walk me down the aisle.

I responded, saying he wouldn’t be walking me down the aisle because my stepfather would, and that the wedding would be small, just for my close family.

After that, I blocked him.

After blocking him (and inspired by reading Reddit stories), I expected calls, messages, and even letters full of insults like “ungrateful” or “spoiled.”

There wasn’t a serious apology…

However, the only thing I received was a letter delivered by Jake (yes, we still have contact).

In the letter, my father expressed how sorry he was.

I won’t copy the exact words, but to summarize: he said that after kicking me out, he lived a normal life with my stepmother and Jake.

But when he saw pictures of my graduation with my mom and stepfather, he started feeling regret.

He wanted to talk to me, but his pride held him back.

She knew what he was up to…

He only decided to reach out now because he realized that his pride got him nowhere and that he wanted to fulfill one of the plans he made when I was born: to pay for my wedding and walk me down the aisle.

Honestly, I don’t know what to do.

I’ve moved on with my life, and his attempt at redemption after so many years feels a bit too convenient.

AITA for not wanting to include my dad in my wedding despite his apology?

Ouch! She clearly didn’t deserve this.

Let’s find out what folks on Reddit think about this story.

This user has a great suggestion for a response for the dad.

This user knows what the dad is up to!

This user has some bitter pills for the girl.

This user understands the girl’s situation.

Exactly! This user suggests not keeping any contact with the mean father.

He had years to be a good father.

He doesn’t get to pretend to be one now when it suits him.

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