It can be heartbreaking when kids have to go into the foster care system, but good foster parents can be a real blessing.

What would you do if your younger siblings were in foster care and the foster mother was happy that your mom passed so that she could adopt your siblings?

That is what the older sister in this story experienced, and she dealt with it in the only way she knew how.

Let’s read all the details…

AITA for going off on my sister’s (9mo) foster mom after she celebrated the fact that she’s now am orphan? (14F)

For context, I raised most of my 6 siblings, and we all got put into foster care in Oct.

Back at the very start of Nov, my youngest 2 siblings were placed with them.

The visits were every other week at the start, and at the first one I  showed up having not seen them in two weeks.

When they arrived the youngest of the 2 (9 months now), was asleep in her car seat.

That is just mean.

She insisted that I shouldn’t wake her, despite only having an hour.

I woke her up to interact and the three of us just read books together on the chair, just general interaction; no fussing or anything happening but she was glaring at me the whole time.

A few days later, on an unmandated visit the 9mo shows up asleep again.

I wake her up, all 7 of us hang out, and then I give her back.

Now there’s even more drama.

Two hours after returning home she messages the foster family I was with at the time and makes them talk to me about not waking up the baby.

I told them she could go to hell.

That night I texted her about how she would never be my sisters’ mother.

I deleted it and apologized the morning after, but it was pretty nasty and 6 paragraphs.

Heartbreaking.

Fast forward a little bit and my mother ends up dying.

Because of this, we were granted weekly visits instead.

Days after, we had a visit and this woman was ecstatic.

My siblings and I were there, the older few of us just dumbfounded by all that’s happened and there she was smiling.

The baby was off limits.

This time she came with the baby in a carrier, so I couldn’t really just take her out.

After 10 minutes I went up and asked to hold her.

She replied that I couldn’t right now, despite that fact that the baby was awake.

I asked her at 4 times before the visit ended.

The foster mom was happy they were orphans.

I managed to not lose it, but on the next visit she shows up gushing to all the other foster parents about how she and her husband are so lucky to get orphans on only her third placement.

I didn’t say anything but that ticked me off.

I had just switched my own placements and my foster moms didn’t know about the previous incident.

This is really out of line.

During yesterday’s visit, she kept talking the same way, saying things like “Its sad she died and all, but you know, I’ve always wanted to have kids” and “Its so nice to adopt babies, you know? That way they’re not all messed up and disobedient later on. Especially when you won’t have to deal with their bio parents.”

I don’t know if its just me, but that in combination with everything leading up to it just set it OFF.

At the end of the visit when it was just my 9 year old brother, me, my foster moms, my brother’s foster mom, and her, (her husband took the kids to the car while she was hanging back to talk a minute longer with the other moms).

I certainly can’t blame her.

I did not hold back, screaming at her for a good four or five minutes about: She isn’t a saint, To never mention my parents like that, She will never be a real mom to my siblings and just generally i hate you.

She looked genuinely upset and today my therapist suggested that I might have blown it out of proportion because of pent-up anger from other things.

AITA?

While yelling like that is rarely going to be productive, it is certainly understandable in this situation

Keep reading to see what some of the people in the comments on Reddit had to say.

A psychologist weighs in here.

Here are some insights from a current foster parent.

This person points out that the foster mom was making it all about her.

Yes, this was really cruel.

This person recommends talking to the caseworker and a lawyer.

Both the foster mother and the therapist are way out of line.

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