It takes a village to raise a child, but not every parent welcomes advice.

When a mother tried to offer hair care advice to her daughter’s friend, she quickly learned that even the best intentions can tangle up a friendship.

Read on for the full story.

AITA for asking another mom if I could help with her daughter’s hair?

My daughter (9) recently made a new friend.

The friend is adopted, she’s Black, and her parents are white.

We’ve had her around our house a lot over the last few months, and we’ve noticed that her parents don’t really know how to look after her hair.

Her family has came up with several ideas they think could help the child.

I’m white, and my husband is mixed.

His Black grandmother lives with us, and she has pointed out the girl’s hair and even tried to give her some haircare advice.

I decided to bring it up with the mom, mentioning her daughter’s hair and that my husband’s grandma was happy to give some advice or even wash, detangle, and braid her hair.

But the other mom didn’t take it well at all.

The mom was really upset that I would suggest she couldn’t take care of her daughter properly and said I was overstepping.

I told her that my grandma-in-law just wanted to help her help her daughter.

She told me I was being rude and undermining her parenting. She also said I wasn’t the first person to bring this up.

Now this mother is worried she overstepped her bounds.

I’m worried now because I really didn’t think she would react like that.

I’m afraid I’ve ruined my daughter’s new friendship.

I understand why she’s upset at thinking I’m trying to suggest she’s not looking after her daughter properly.

But she also resents that the other mother would reject such sound advice that would benefit her daughter.

On the other hand, it’s 2024.

There is so much information out there to help her with her daughter’s hair, plus we live near a big city with plenty of salons she could take her daughter to.

AITA for bringing this up? I feel bad about how things transpired.

She only meant to help, but now things are more tense than ever.

What did Reddit think?

You can tell when some people let their ego come first.

Not knowing better is one thing, but choosing to remain ignorant is another.

Someone is caught in the crossfire here, and it may not be who the mother thinks.

The mother needs to step up and do better.

Sometimes good parenting means letting go of your ego.

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