Cancer sucks, we all know that.

But in this story, a mere hypothetical cancer causes real relationship drama.

A girlfriend was hoping her boyfriend would want to be a united front, but when he hesitated due to childhood trauma, she wasn’t happy.

This is a hairy one…

AITA for not shaving my hair?

I 27m and my wife 25f have been together for over 8 years.

We have always agreed on everything but yesterday we got into an argument.

Her family has been struggling with cancer and she is scared that she will get cancer as well.

This is completely valid but we’ve been talking about it a lot.

This is a big ask.

One day she came to me and asked: “If I got cancer would you shave your hair?”

I was stunned when she asked this because I have always been extremely caring with my hair. When I was little, my dad would shave my hair off as a punishment and I’d get bullied for it.

She knows this very well. She has always seen me taking hours in the bathroom just because I was caring for my hair and has complimented me on it a lot.

This is a nice gesture.

But now she has been seeing a lot of heartwarming content of people shaving their hair for their family members that have cancer.

I see why she would want me to do it, but as I said I have actual shaving trauma and when she asked me about it I just broke down.

She said I was a wuss and if I had cancer she would shave off her hair for me.

AITA?

Solidarity is important, but is this a hair too far?

Let’s check the comments on Reddit.

This person says, sentiment over performance.

Another commenter says, no need to relive that trauma.

Another person in the no-trauma column…

Here’s another NTA who says they’d never ask someone to do this.

Another person says the asker is the AH.

This hypothetical situation is hair raising.

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