Going through a divorce can be really difficult, and if you have a friend going through a divorce you might want to help.

If a friend was kicked out of his house by his wife and you had an extra room, would you let the friend stay with you?

If you did, would you feel like it was necessary to let the friend’s soon to be ex know where they were living?

Those are the questions we’re pondering in today’s story where one woman is mad at another woman for letting her husband move in.

Let’s read all the details.

AITAH FOR NOT TELLING MY FRIEND’s WIFE THAT HE WAS LIVING IN MY HOUSE

So I (29F) married with a toddler has been friends with Sam (29M) since high school

For context: It’s a small circle of friends. All boys except for me.

We travel a lot.

We have never been physical or had feelings for each other, it’s just platonic friendship.

When they got together with their partners we have travelled only with their significant others.

And I have been friends with their partners and vice versa.

I meet up with the girls without the boys too.

She and Sam have both gotten married, and their spouses are also part of the friend group.

Sam and his wife Roma (29F) have been together since then.

So she became part of the same crowd as well.

I got married first. And my husband and I have a great marriage.

We are happy.

The following year others got married too.

Sam and Roma aren’t exactly happily married.

So the drama unfolded last year.

My husband is away for work purposes.

Sam and Roma have been married for almost 5 years now .

Their relationship has ALWAYS been bad.

Don’t get me wrong she is a good friend. But their relationship was a mess.

Roma gets angry pretty easily.

She has anger issues and Sam always ignore her tantrums.

You must think how I know this.

They fight In front of the whole crowd for silliest and stupidest things.

ARGUE. SHOUTING and what not.

My friends and I never poked our nose into their relationship, cause I have a belief that if my opinion is not asked that means it isn’t required in the first place.

Roma kicked Sam out.

One day they got into a huge fight, over Sam wanting to meet our mutual other friend (29M) for a game night.

Roma got so mad over this and told Sam to move out from the house.

(This isn’t the first she told him to leave)

Sam thought she’d come around when her tantrums were over.

But everyday ends, her belittling him and shouting.

And on the 3rd or 4th day he got a msg from Roma saying that she doesn’t even want to see his face and a bunch of other crappy things and had packed his stuffs when he went to home after work.

Sam needed somewhere to stay.

He got so heartbroken and maybe it was his last straw to work things out.

On the next day I got a call from Sam upset and told me all these things.

And ask for my help since he doesn’t have a place to stay.

I had a spare room.

I told my husband and we offered the spare room for rent.

Sam didn’t tell Roma where he was living.

He works in shift and I do too.

So we rarely see each other although we share a roof.

I told Sam to tell Roma that he lives at my place but he was like only of she asked.

He was clearly over with her and didn’t want to get back.

Cause after separating he tried multiple times to sit nicely and talk which ended up is more SHOUTINGS AND ARGUMENTS.

He was kinda fed up by then.

Roma eventually found out where Sam was living.

After 7 or 8 months. He filed for divorce.

And Roma found out that he was living here.

She texted saying thank you for helping him and that she’s glad I was there for him.

But after 2 or 3 days I got multiple texts blaming me for not telling her and also implying that we are having an affair.

Roma is now blaming her.

I told her very nicely that she could have just asked me or talked about them having problems, I would have known.

And would not hide that fact.

But She’s saying that I ruined their marriage by not telling her that he is living at my place.

AITAH?

The marriage ending is definitely not her fault.

She’s looking for someone to blame, someone other than herself.

Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

She just wants to blame someone.

These are good questions.

Exactly. Roma can only blame herself.

This person thinks she’s a great friend.

All she did was help a friend.

No shame in that.

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.