One woman is pregnant with her first child, but when her estranged parents suddenly reached out to be a part of her child’s life, she was having none of it.

Her parents had previously chosen her sister’s childhood bully over her, and now, years later, they expect to be welcomed back as grandparents.

After years of neglect, should they really get a second chance, or is she right to shut them out?

Check out the details and decide for yourself.

AITA for not letting my parents to be involved grandparents because they chose my sister’s friend over me?

I’m (25f) pregnant with my first child and only a few weeks ago my estranged parents found out about my pregnancy from someone I know back in my home town.

They reached out so excited to find out they were going to be grandparents and wanting to be involved but I ignored them and continued ignoring them…

Until two days ago when I replied one time and made it clear they will never know my child or be in our lives and that I wanted them to stop contacting me.

This was all via email btw.

And of course, that didn’t go over well.

Let me get into some background. I have an older sister Sam (28) and she had a best friend Luna.

Sam and Luna met in pre-k and became fast friends.

Luna was over at our house all the time and eventually she started saying really awful things to me and bullying me.

She called me names, mocked me whenever I asked if I could spend time with her and Sam, threw stuff at me when she’d see me and even made a game out of spitting at me and seeing how many times she could hit me.

They just let it happen!

My parents knew and they did nothing but once I was 7 they sat me down and told me that Luna had a bad time at home and she was mean but she needed us and I needed to understand.

And how Luna was so important to Sam and she would grow up into a better person if we didn’t abandon her.

She used to come along to extended family parties and dinners.

I remember one time mom’s side was all meeting up and because my parents didn’t say Luna was coming we were a chair short for a bit.

Luna took the chair and then said there was no room for me at the table just like there wasn’t room for me anywhere and I should cry in a corner somewhere.

Someone MUST realize how bad this is…

Mom’s family were horrified and I started to cry. I was like 9 by then.

My grandparents ended up leaving the table and getting one for just the three of us and they spoiled me while they refused to pay for a single thing Luna consumed.

They asked me what was going on too and I told them EVERYTHING.

Afterward my parents got so much crap from mom’s side of the family and my mom’s parents contacted my dad’s parents and they were shamed by both sides.

As they should be.

When they had enough of that my parents told Sam that Luna needed to come over less or she needed to be nicer.

They sorta stuck to that for a while.

My grandparents checked in on me weekly to see if my parents were “letting that spoiled little madam into the house to abuse me” and I think that was the deterrent for my parents.

But then when I was 12 my parents let Luna move in with us.

They said her home situation was worse and she was going to apologize and we were going to make sure she felt wanted and welcome with us.

We can guess how that “apology” went.

I got a “sorry, I guess” from her but I could hear her making fun of me to Sam whenever me and my parents weren’t around.

She’d laugh about how I looked betrayed when my parents told me she was moving in. She found it hilarious.

I think you can see whose side Sam was always on.

I lived like that for a little over a year before it got to be too much and I told my grandparents Luna was living with us.

They went ballistic on my parents and after weeks or months of fighting about it my grandparents insisted I was going to move in with them.

The parents had a choice. And they didn’t choose their daughter.

My parents protested against it but my grandparents said they couldn’t be trusted to take care of me.

My parents wouldn’t kick out Luna for me so yeah.

I lived with my grandparents the rest of that time and I actually live in the same neighborhood as them with my partner now.

I actually had zero contact once I moved in with my grandparents.

These emails were the first contact in more than a decade.

And now they think they get to be grandparents?

My parents keep replying to that one email.

I got like four within a few minutes about an hour after I sent it and they’re telling me I’m taking this too far and they said Luna isn’t even in the picture anymore.

AITA?

After years of emotional neglect and choosing her sister’s friend over her own child, this woman is firm in her decision not to let them back into her life—no matter how excited they are to become grandparents.

Reddit is on her side.

This person says good riddance…no loss on her end.

This person says the parents have to endure the consequences of their actions.

And this person says OP owes her family nothing.

Sounds like they want to play the grandparent card, but the deck they’ve dealt her is one of betrayal, not family.

Too bad for them.

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