June 24, 2025 at 6:21 am

His Ex-Wife’s Stepdaughter Is Allergic To Multiple Foods, So His Kids Aren’t Allowed Over To Their House For The Ex-Wife’s Custody Time Unless They Never Eat These Foods Again

by Jayne Elliott

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Allergies can be very serious, and they should be taken seriously.

Imagine marrying someone whose daughter has a lot of food allergies. Would you forbid everyone in your family from eating those foods even when they’re in a different location, or would you simply ban the foods from your own home?

In today’s story, one dad is dealing with an ex-wife who has a stepdaughter with a lot of allergies, and it’s impacting their own child custody agreement.

Let’s see what’s going on.

AITA for refusing to comply by my ex-wife’s husband’s rules about what my kids can eat so they can go to their mom’s house?

My ex-wife and I (both in our 30s) divorced 7 years ago. We two boys together aged 8 and 9.

My ex-wife remarried two years ago and her husband brought his daughter and son into the marriage.

About five months after they got married my ex’s husband sent me a list of foods I could not feed my kids because his daughter is allergic and whenever my boys are at their house his daughter struggles with her allergies.

He said he heard it from my kids’ mouths that they eat those things when they’re with me. He said anyone coming into their home needs to avoid those foods. And that I must cut them from my kids diet when they’re at my house, which was every other week at this time.

Here are the foods his kids are no longer supposed to eat.

These include,

  • Peanut Butter
  • Eggs
  • Cheese
  • Strawberries
  • Chocolate

It wasn’t a joke.

At first I thought it was a joke but I got an email from this man the next time my kids went to their mom’s house, berating me for not complying with his orders.

Then my ex-wife tried to sue me for custody or for it to be placed in the court ordered custody agreement that our boys could not eat those things.

She lost the case on both counts. The judge told them they could not decide on what I feed my kids.

Now he basically has full custody.

So for the past year my ex has not taken her parenting time with our kids.

Her husband is not okay with them being there if they’ve eaten those things at my house.

He said his daughter could die and even if it’s not that bad, she should not be made uncomfortable because ‘a grown man child with a petty grudge would not comply with keeping a child safe out of spite for the new father in his kids’ lives’.

His ex thinks the whole situation is his fault.

My ex blames me for her not being a mom to our kids. She told me all I needed to do was follow the list. That everyone has to. And that she’s already had some family members refuse.

Our boys miss their mom but not their mom’s house.

I have tried to plan for them to see each other but she won’t lead or drive here.

She doesn’t want to see them if they’re not in her house for her custody time. They’re not welcome while they eat those foods. And I’m not depriving them of that stuff because this man orders me to.

He’s wondering if he’s in the wrong or if his ex is.

I have my boys in custody because of this madness.

My ex didn’t handle that too well and she told me I’m being a jerk and alienating the kids from her. She told me to follow the rules and let the boys have both of us.

I just want to see what others outside of the equation will think. I have support from others. But these are people who know me. AITA?

The ex’s husband sound crazy. How does the daughter survive in the world if she can’t be around anyone who has eaten the items on that list? I’ve never heard of allergies so severe that you can’t be in the same room with someone who has eaten them in a different location.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

What about the kids at school?

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Does the allergic girl just stay home all the time?

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The ex’s new husband sounds pretty manipulative.

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The judge is on the dad’s side.

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A physician weighs in.

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Talk about an unreasonable request!

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