Marriage can be really challenging, which is why a lot of marriages end in divorce.

If you were contemplating divorce, would you change your mind if your spouse were diagnosed with terminal cancer, or would you still get divorced?

In today’s story, one woman decides to set the idea of divorce aside to care for her dying husband, but she’s not sure she’s doing the right thing.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITAH for staying married to my husband only because he was diagnosed with terminal cancer?

I (50+F) have been married to my husband “Adam” (55+M) for 20 years.

About a year ago, I was ready to leave. We had grown apart — emotionally, physically, even mentally. No infidelity, just a long, slow erosion.

I hadn’t spoken to a lawyer, yet I was planning my exit.

Everything changed in October.

Then, in October, Adam was diagnosed with stage 2 cancer which has progressed quickly to stage 4.

I didn’t leave. I couldn’t. How do you walk away from someone who just found out they’re dying?

So, I stayed.

I shifted to caregiver, and I’ve played the part well. Everyone calls me “amazing” and “so strong.”

She is doing all the right things but feels guilty.

I cook for him, I take him to treatments, attend all the doctors’ appointments. I will call the emergency services as needed. I tell him I love him.

But deep down… I checked out a long time ago. And the guilt is crushing.

I’m not staying out of love — I’m staying because anything else would make me a villain in everyone’s eyes, especially because he would end up uninsured.

Life expectancy is 3 months – 3 years in the rarer cases 4 to 5 years.

She accidentally admitted the truth to her sister-in-law.

Last week, his sister caught me crying in my car and asked if I was okay.

I told her, stupidly, “I was going to leave before he got sick.”

She hasn’t spoken to me since.

I haven’t told Adam. I won’t. What good would that do? He gets to die thinking I loved him through everything. Isn’t that better than the truth?

So… AITA for staying married to my husband only because he got a diagnosis that progressed to terminal stage 4?

When you get married, the vows include “til death do you part,” so if she can stay married until death, she might as well.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

It’s okay to stay.

She obviously still cares about him.

This person agrees that she’s doing the right thing.

Another person calls her “a saint.”

She loves him, just not romantically.

She’s putting him first, which says a lot.

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.