Families dynamics are complicated, and extended family is capable of committing microaggressions against one another in ways unfathomable to those outside of the clan.

What would you do if your family simply refused to acknowledge the address you’ve lived at for over a decade?

One woman recently asked Reddit for advice on how to handle this debacle.

Here are the details.

WIBTA if I ignore my cousin’s wedding invitation?

I, 43F, live about 500km from most of my family, and have lived here since I was 29.

I’m married and own a home with my husband.

We met here in my current city.

Okay, fairly normal for kids to move far away from where their family is based, certainly once they’ve hit their 40s. Doesn’t seem too odd yet.

Since I moved, family members have continued to send invites for important events to my mother’s house.

At first it was sort of logical, because I was moving from one rental to another.

Seems like a fairly standard move for family members to do if your life is in transit, perhaps even while someone is still in their late 20s.

However my husband and I have lived in our current house for almost 10 years.

Hm, interesting. Makes you wonder how often she really keeps in touch with these family members.

I’ve done all sorts of things to update people with my address – sending emails, Christmas cards with an “updated address” note attached, etc.

But for some reason certain family members insist on sending invites to my mom’s house (and my husband has never ever lived there).

Pretty bizarre move on the part of the family members.

I find it a little insulting at this point because I’m in my 40s and haven’t lived with my mother since my early 20s.

My cousin is getting married and not surprisingly sent the invite to my mom’s.

Not sure what the cousin was thinking here.

WIBTA if I just ignore the invitation completely and act like I never got it?

I’m honestly so fed up of people acting like I still live with my mom and don’t have my own completely separate adult life.

Feeling fed up seems understandable here, but to completely ignore the invitation of a pretty massive life event?

That’s a whole other story.

Let’s see if Reddit commenters were equally as torn…

Many people cut right to the chase.

Some rightfully pointed out that she needed to seriously consider the weight of ignoring the invitation.

Though enough folks had the nuance to admit that not going to the wedding would make her TA.

Many just admitted that calling out the faux pas was enough.

Seems like stubbornness runs in this family’s genes.

And no one really wins.

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