Working out together or separately is a choice most couples have to make at some point, and it can even be a bonding experience either way.

But what would you do if your partner kept pushing you beyond what you’re comfortable with at the gym? Would you still go with them, or tell them to back off?

This is what this person is dealing with, and she asked the internet for insight.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITA for telling my boyfriend to calm down in the gym with me?

I’ll give some context. I (18f) have a boyfriend (17m) of almost two years who loves the gym, he’s gone every day for the past 5 years.

I’m slightly overweight and I admit it, I’m only 5’1 and at my peak weight was 150.

But she has been trying to take care of her health.

I started to go to the gym with him a while ago, however I’ve noticed it seems like he doesn’t respect me while I’m there.

He will add weight without asking and make fun of me for asking him to put it down, he also makes me do 12 reps whereas he only does 8.

But something feels off about it.

I know I lift a lot lighter than him however should i really be pushing myself like this?

I’ve never gone to the gym and he’s pushing all this stuff onto me but every time I tell him to calm down, he just ignores me or says I just need to go harder.

I’m disabled and scared I will hurt myself because he makes me lift heavier than I can. What should I do?

AITA?

At this point, going to the gym separately would be a good start.

Let’s see how Reddit feels about this.

A reader shares some thoughts.

This commenter shares their opinion.

Simple like that.

Food for thought.

More food for thought.

Another reader chimes in.

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Actual good advice.

Her boyfriend is probably doing this mainly out of immaturity, but it’s definitely a red flag.

She should get a personal trainer or work out alone.

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