Love and marriage. You can’t have one without…a 50% divorce rate in this day and age.

Breakups are already hard enough to endure even in best case, “we’re still friends and co-parenting” scenarios.

But what would you do if you found out your ex was pregnant immediately after the papers were signed?

One couple on Reddit found themselves in this exact hot water.

Here’s what went down.

AITA for not telling my ex-husband I was pregnant after the divorce?

I, 25F split up with my ex husband 29M, 8 months ago. We were married for 3 years. Together for 7.

Yoinks. Divorce isn’t easy even in the best of circumstances. This sounds like it’s going to get crazy.

For context; me and my husband met in university. I was pursuing forensics and he was pursuing photography.

Forensics and Photography. Classic love story.

We were the “high school sweethearts” of the university campus.

Not sure if that’s the correct use of that term, but sure.

When we got married I told him I wanted kids but he said he’d never want kids and if I got pregnant we’d have to abort it or give it up for adoption one it’s born.

Uh, wow, that’s a little intense dude.

I told him I wouldn’t do that ever. This caused lots of little fights.

Not great at all, but sounds like these two were inherently incompatible from the jump.

Growing up, I had 8 siblings (2 older, 6 younger) so I always wanted to be a mother.

Most people would have the opposite reaction, good for her I guess.

Eventually, ONCE. We had a physical altercation not because of the baby thing but because of everything.

Um, I don’t think there’s ever any reason to have a physical altercation?

Although we loved each other deeply, life was hectic and we ended up getting a divorce.

No way, you think?

To me, it’s not a proper reason for divorce but. Anyways, I’m now 7 and a half months pregnant with a baby girl.

To each their own I guess, but wow, this whole situation sounds like a mess.

I’m currently staying with my brother, his wife, and kids until the baby comes.

At least she got herself into a safe situation.

Our parents live in Puerto Rico while we’re in Boston. I haven’t seen my ex-husband since the divorce.

Hopefully that’s a boundary that will remain in place.

But yesterday I was at Costco to grab something and he was there with another woman who I’d never seen.

This a sitcom-level encounter.

So, obviously we ran into each other and he realized I wasn’t this petite girl he married.

Not to defend this guy at all, but I’m sure that was pretty shocking.

The conversation didn’t last long. Later that day he called, screaming.

Some people never change no matter what.

Assuming he didn’t at Costco because of his new girl.

Can’t imagine she’d want to stick around with that.

Calling me names and threatening me.

There’s never any excuse for that.

He told me he didn’t want me to carry his child and wanted nothing to do with it and if I don’t give it up he’ll fight for custody and do it himself.

Doesn’t sound like this guy understands the correct order of operations here, but this sounds like a heat of the moment fight.

That’s why I didn’t tell him. Although I will always love him, he’s not suitable to be a father.

I guess good thing she realized it ahead of time…

I wish I could give my daughter the father she deserves but I plan to make it my life to give her everything and more.

She sounds like her heart is in the right place to be a great mom…

What do I do? I already have a family lawyer ready to take legal action if needed. Please help!!

The vibe of the comments were somewhat torn, the tone oscillating between quite a bit of tough love…

…and some sweet enthusiasm from other more experienced mothers.

Though some were quite skeptical of the help that the original poster had already claimed to have received.

But ultimately, folks offered their sincere congratulations alongside practical insight.

Oh to be a fly on the wall at that baby shower…

Awkward is an understatement.

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