Living with pets can come with frustrating problems.

If you were dating someone who had a pretty messy pet, would you consider moving in with them, or would you rather not live with the pet?

This woman has been in a loving relationship for years and is now thinking about buying her own flat.

But her boyfriend cares for an elderly cat that has some serious bathroom issues.

Now, as they talk about moving in together, she’s unsure if she can welcome the cat, too.

Check out the full story below.

WIBTA if I didn’t move in with my boyfriend till his elderly cat passes

I’ve been in a long-term relationship with an amazing man for the past few years.

He partially owns a flat with a family member.

I am considering buying a flat in the next year or so.

We used to live together in the past, but I moved out partially due to the following issue with his cat.

This woman learned about the behavior of his boyfriend’s cat.

He has an elderly cat, who he took in a few years ago after a relative died.

This relative was very elderly and didn’t really teach this cat to use a litter box. As a result, this cat would leave its mess under this relative’s bed as a habit.

When they cleaned this family member’s estate, they said the house was full of crap, and the area under the bed was covered in crap.

Her boyfriend did everything to help the cat stay clean.

My boyfriend took the cat in, got him multiple litter boxes, and keeps them clean.

But the cat has just never used a litter box regularly.

He’s getting older now, so he’s also sprinkling around the house.

The cat didn’t learn to clean himself that well.

But the cat continued to leave its mess everywhere.

Sometimes, he would sit on the bed after going to the bathroom, and there would be stains on the sheets.

My boyfriend has taken the cat to the vet for bathroom issues many times.

The vet said there’s nothing wrong with him except the occasional UTI which we’ve treated with medication.

The problem has gotten so bad that his house started smelling.

The sprinkling part has gotten so bad. There’s now quite a strong odour to his flat as soon as you open the door.

He can’t WFH, so he’s out of the house 8 hours a day.

When he comes back, there is an assortment of bathroom leftovers that he cleans.

Her boyfriend continued to care for the cat despite its toilet issues.

I think maybe the “leak” soaked through and can’t fully be cleaned because the cat will sprinkle and dump in very similar parts of the room each time.

My boyfriend is the sweetest man, and even though this bathroom situation is frustrating, he loves the boy. He treats him really well and does his best to clean the messes as they come.

Now, she’s thinking of postponing moving to a new place with him because of his cat.

We’ve been talking about next plans of where to live. We were talking about maybe moving into a flat I would buy in the next year.

But I can’t help but feel really hesitant about the cat moving in.

WIBTA if I held off on my boyfriend moving into this theoretical house till the cat passes?

Her boyfriend and his cat seem to be a package deal.

Is she wrong to wait until the cat passes to move in with him, or considering the cat’s issues, is that the wise thing to do?

Let’s read the responses of other people on Reddit to this story.

This person gives their honest opinion.

This user shares some sound advice.

Just wait it out, says this person.

A vet technician shares their thoughts.

Finally, this person thinks no one is at fault.

Love sometimes means making hard choices for your own peace.

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