Planning a party takes a lot of work and it is almost impossible to please everyone.

What would you do if you were asked to plan an engagement party, but people kept changing what they wanted and refused to agree on a date?

That is what happened to the friend in this story, so she finally gave up and refused to be in charge of planning.

AITA for bowing out of planning my friends engagement party?

My(30f) friend (25f) asked me to plan her engagement party.

Planning this type of party can be a lot of fun (and a lot of work).

Of course, I agreed. I started a group chat with her and her maid of honor(31f) to plan the party.

First, we needed to set a date. We all started trying to find a date that works for all parties.

Lots of decisions need to be made.

Then, I asked her what she had in mind; formal, laid back, lots of decorations, theme, location, etc.

She told me laid back, and asked if I could just host it at my home. I agreed. I start planning.

She is really going all out for this.

I’m making boards, and lists, and shopping for decorations, planning food, everything.

We get hung up on setting the date. No one can make up their minds.

At some point, you just have to pick a day and if someone can’t come, that’s ok.

Someone has a problem with every date we try. Then, 21f says just cancel it. She doesn’t want the party now.

Ok… I wash my hands and forget about it. Fast forward about an hour, she messages back saying she changed her mind: she DOES want the party, and that her MOH wants it at a winery.

I can see why this would be frustrating.

I left the group chat and messaged the MOH separately, and asked what was going on? Winery? Are we not doing it at my house?

Who is paying the winery rental fee? MOH said that the bride decided this; but the bride blamed the MOH.

Booking an event at the winery will be expensive.

Either way, they both said they cannot pay for the winery. WHO are they expecting to PAY for the winery?

I didn’t understand why we couldn’t ALL chat about this in the group chat? I also didn’t understand why SHE ASKED ME to plan it, but then secretly messages the MOH that she wants something else?

Maybe the bride felt uncomfortable making that request?

Why didn’t she just say so in the chat when I first asked??

I told them both that I don’t care WHO plans WHAT, but I’m out. Just tell me where and when to show up.

AITA?

It sounds like she tried to get input from too many people and it got overly complicated.

When in charge of party planning, sometimes you just need to make decisions and other people have to live with it.

Read on to see what the people in the comments thought of the situation.

This commenter says to keep all correspondence.

It does feel like this.

This person says she dodged a nightmare.

Hopefully she kept the peace.

This commenter says the bride-to-be is using her as an ATM.

What a nightmare. Hopefully this doesn’t ruin the friendship entirely.

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