It used to be very common for people to just ‘pop in’ and see friends or family members without calling or texting ahead of time.

What would you do if your mother-in-law did this all the time, but you hated it because you don’t like unexpected guests?

That is what happened to the wife in this story, and now her mother-in-law is upset because she feels unwelcome.

AITA for refusing to let my MIL stay in my house uninvited?

I (32F) live with my husband.

The unannounced ‘pop in’ can be very annoying.

My MIL often shows up at our house without warning, sometimes staying for hours.

She says it’s because she wants to spend time with us, but it makes me uncomfortable and stresses me out.

Her husband needs to have a talk with his mom.

Yesterday, she came over again without telling us.

I told her she can’t just show up uninvited and needs to call or ask first.

I’m sure it is just a personality difference, but she is out of line.

She got upset, saying I was being rude and that family should be welcome anytime.

I feel like I’m just asking for basic boundaries in my own home.

No, but this should be handled by the husband.

AITA for telling her she can’t drop by without asking?

Not at all. I’m sure the MIL is doing it out of love and it seems normal to her, but this wife should not have to be uncomfortable in her own home. The husband needs to talk to his mom.

Read on to see what the people in the comments have to say about it.

Here is someone who says her partner should put a stop to it.

This commenter has a good husband.

This may be effective, but it shouldn’t be necessary.

Setting firm boundaries is very important.

This commenter says the husband should be putting a stop to this.

Come on mom, just call ahead!

If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.