Communicating with loved ones living far away has never been so easy with technology.

This woman grew tired of her dad never reaching out to her.

So she decided to stop updating him on her family’s life.

Then he called her upset, asking why he never told her about his granddaughter’s struggles.

Read the full story below for all the details.

AITA for not sending my dad updates about my life or my daughter when he never calls, texts, or visits?

I (30F) had a decent relationship with my dad overall.

Growing up, it was just him and me from about 7th grade until I graduated, and we were really close.

He was an alcoholic, which had its challenges.

But when we were together, we got along well.

This woman’s dad stopped reaching out to her after he got remarried.

The issue is when we’re apart he never calls, texts, or visits.

After I moved out, he remarried an old family friend of my mom’s, a story for another day.

That’s when things really changed.

Her kids and grandkids always seemed to come first.

For example, they’d drive almost 3 hours to see her daughter and grandkids.

She had always been the one flying out to see him.

But they wouldn’t make the extra 30-minute drive to see me.

I brought it up once, and his excuse was they visited her daughter because she had kids.

Fine! But then I had my own daughter, and still, they never came to us.

The only time they saw us was when we went to them.

He and his family moved to get closer to his wife’s children, but he never came to visit her.

Later, her daughter and grandkids moved out of state to Nebraska.

My dad and his wife went on a whole road trip out there to see them.

Meanwhile, my husband, daughter, and I lived in Arizona for 3 years, and they never came once.

Eventually, they actually moved to Nebraska to be closer to her daughter and grandkids.

Since then, I’ve only seen them once and that was when we flew out there.

He called her after seeing an online post from her.

Recently, I posted online about my daughter struggling with something.

My dad called asking what was going on. Since he asked, I filled him in.

He got upset and asked why I never update him about my life or my daughter.

I told him, “Because you never call, text, or ask.”

He and his wife are upset with her for not communicating with them.

Now, he and his wife are upset, saying it’s my fault because “the phone goes both ways.”

They said I should be updating him no matter what.

I get that the phone goes both ways.

I do exactly that with my father-in-law and step-MIL.

So now, he’s wondering if he’s in thw wrong for not sharing updates with his dad.

But the difference is they actually reach out, ask about my daughter, and make the effort to visit us.

That makes me want to share updates, because they show they care.

So, AITA for not sending updates to my dad?

When he doesn’t bother to call, text, or show any interest?

Let’s see what others have to say about this.

This one offers some honest advice.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

Give what you get, says this person.

Here’s a valid point.

And lastly, this one narrates a similar experience.

Relationships are a two-way street.

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