Imagine breaking up with an ex after adopting two cats together. If you mutually decided that you would each take one cat, would you ever be open to taking both cats instead, or would you rather split them up?

In this story, one woman broke up with her ex, and they each kept one cat. Now, her ex wants her to take his cat, but she gave him some other suggestions.

He’s mad at her, and she’s wondering if she was rude. Let’s read the whole story to decide.

AITAH for how I reacted to my ex saying he was giving up his cat?

This is more complicated than the title.

My ex and I split over 3 year ago and maintained a friendly relationship until this past February when he started dating his current girlfriend, Z.

At the time, I was living with my now ex, but I had tiny voice in the back of my head telling me to not cut my lease early at my old place and I was right, we ended up splitting in May.

She explains the living arrangements for the cats.

I live in a fairly small 1 bedroom with my cat. He lives in a 3 story townhouse with his cat.

These are cats we adopted when we were dating and living together, and when we split, it worked out well, one cat liked me more, one cat liked him more, easy enough, right?

Wrong.

Her ex is thinking about giving her his cat.

So we adopted these cats over 7 years ago and have had them for most of their lives.

Anyone I date, I make it clear my cat and I are a package deal so if they have severe allergies, it’s not a good fit.

However, Z has bad cat allergies. And supposedly she’s been trying to get more exposure to the cat and the allergies haven’t gotten better.

I got a text out of the blue a few days ago from my ex asking if I would take his cat because Z is moving in.

She really can’t take the cat.

I can’t have 2 cats in my apartment and it also also goes against my lease.

I told him no, and provided him with a list of solutions, one of which included allergy shots which worked well for me.

He told me no, shots don’t work for her.

And I asked, oh is she anti vax or something?

I told him they’re worth trying and left it at that.

Her ex didn’t like that comment.

The next day I got a series of texts from him asking what was up about me asking that, that it was a dig, just being really rude I guess.

I told him that he’s had his cat for 7 years, she’s 11 years old, if you take to a shelter, she’ll probably die there, she’s not easily re-homeable, and she’s super attached to you and it’ll really hurt her if she just never sees you again.

He told me to stay out of his relationship and that I had no business commenting on how he was handling this but he brought me into it in the first place.

So, was I the AH for how I responded to this?

She might’ve been a little rude, but it’s her ex. Really, who cares? I hope he is able to find a way to keep the cat.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

He shouldn’t have asked her if he didn’t want her honest answer.

Here’s another person who is on her side.

Another person reassures her that she’s a good pet owner.

This person feels sad for the ex’s cat.

But this person goes against the grain and points out that allergy shots really don’t work for everyone.

I can see why they’re no longer a couple.

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