Imagine having a strained relationship with your family, but you decide to spend Thanksgiving weekend with them anyway.

If one of your relatives got mad at your for saying “good morning” instead of a specific phrase, would you just say the phrase and move on with life, or would you refuse even if that meant she was kicking you out?

In this story, one young woman is in this exact situation, and she refuses to say the phrase.

Keep reading to see how the drama quickly escalates.

AITA for saying “Good Morning” instead of a cultural phrase?

I (27F) spent thanksgiving weekend with my family.

For context, I have a very fraught relationship with my family and have mostly disengaged with them over the years, but they put in more effort lately so I started attending more events.

My grandma is also getting older so I want to spend more time with her.

The reasons for my disengagement is that I feel like me (and my siblings) have been treated more unfairly compared to my cousins, but I am just using this as background on why I got more upset than I should have.

Here’s how the morning went…

My cousins and my sister & BIL came over early in the morning because they were going to a movie I had already seen.

I had drove in earlier yesterday, picking up my sister and BIL from the city, and stayed overnight so I can drive them back as public transport would be long and annoying.

I waited to have lunch until they arrived and was in the guest room, but they never called me before they started eating.

I heard them eventually and came out, my cousins greeted me with “Good morning” as I walked in and I greeted her back “Good morning” and asked what dishes were out.

Apparently, “good morning” wasn’t good enough.

As I sat down to eat one of my aunts (not the mom of my cousin or owner of the house), said I need to greet my older cousins with a cultural phrase.

I said I had already told them good morning.

And she said no I had to greet them with a specific phrase.

Again I said I think it’s fine but she wouldn’t drop it. So I went and said the phrase to all of them (slightly sarcastically) and sat down again.

Her cousin tried to stop her from leaving.

My aunt took my plate of food and said I wasn’t welcome in this house if I don’t say it properly.

So I said fine I will leave then.

I went to grab my coat and things and as I was walking out my cousin told me I should just say the phrase as a cultural thing towards my elders.

I told her I had told her good morning, and that my younger siblings didn’t say the phrase to me and no one said anything to them, I don’t find it a big deal.

The argument continued…

She said no they should, but again I do not think she understood the double standards?

No one has taken someone’s plate and ordered my siblings out because they didn’t say it to me, I wouldn’t care anyway.

My cousin and me argued about it, I said I didn’t need this drama in my life and she said I was the one creating the drama by storming out.

My sister agreed with her and my other cousin mumbled I should say it to be nice. For context, I had greeted them all with that phrase yesterday when I arrived.

I left the house and drove home. AITA?

I think I can see why she keeps her distance from her family! And, she wasn’t the one creating drama – her aunt was.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

The double standard is the main issue.

Another person is on her side.

Here’s someone who can relate to having a cultural phrase like this.

The aunt is clearly the problem.

She did the right thing by leaving.

Nobody wants to be where they’re not respected.

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