January 11, 2026 at 10:15 am

Bride Sent A Simple Website Link For Bridesmaids To Buy Their Dresses, But An Unexpected Pushback Forced Her To Question If She Was Being Too Strict

by Benjamin Cottrell

woman shopping for a dress on her computer

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Brides often expect a little chaos when planning their big day, but it’s the tiny details that can really throw you off.

So when a bride picked a specific shade of lavender for her wedding party to wear, she wasn’t expecting one of her bridesmaids/cousin to challenge her plan.

The unexpected pushback then left her to wonder if she’s wrong for sticking to her vision.

Read on for the full story.

WIBTA if I tell my bridesmaids that they have to pick a dress from the website I sent them?

I (30F) am getting married next year in May, and I sent my bridesmaids the link to where to get their dresses.

She wants to give them a fair amount of freedom, but still knows the overall look she wants.

The dresses can be any style as long as the colour I picked for them, which is lavender, and the fabric is the same.

Soon, her cousin managed to throw a wrench in her plans.

One of my cousins, who is also a bridesmaid, sent me a link for a different website.

I looked, but it did not have the colour I selected for my bridesmaids.

She’s polite, but firm about what she wants.

I texted her “Thank you for sending me the website link, but I’d rather everyone pick from the website I sent them.”

This way, everyone has the same colour shade and fabric.

But her cousin’s lack of response has her doubting herself.

But I didn’t get a text back from her yet.

So, WIBTAH if my bridesmaids have to pick a bridesmaid dress from the link I sent and not other sites?

It is her big day, after all.

Redditors chime in.

As long as this bride covered all her bases, this user doesn’t see a problem.

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It’s pretty customary for the bride to have some degree of say over the bridesmaids’ dresses.

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These bridesmaids are already getting a lot more freedom than other wedding parties.

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There’s no reason her cousin won’t be able to find something she likes.

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This bride certainly wasn’t asking for the world — just all of her bridesmaids to pick dresses in a consistent color and style.

She deserves having her special day just right.

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