Some people are not close to their grandparents.

This man chose not to attend her grandfather’s 90th birthday.

He lived far away, travel was expensive, and he hadn’t been supportive of her sister.

So instead, he sent his grandfather a gift and a birthday message, but relatives still confronted him about her absence.

Read the full story below for all the details.

AITA for not attending my Grandfather’s 90th Birthday?

Some time ago, my grandfather celebrated his 90th birthday.

I myself am not particularly close to this specific relative.

Especially because he hasn’t been supportive of my little sister, who came out not long ago.

And who’s birthday happens to coincide within the same week as his party.

This man wanted to celebrate with her sister more than with his grandfather.

He also lives on the other side of the country and travel there would be expensive.

So I decided to not attend, not only because I cannot afford the plane ticket.

I would feel more inclined to celebrate the birthday of my sister as opposed to my troubled grandfather.

I sent him a present and a birthday text, and I considered that matter over.

But his family members confronted him about not attending.

But then, I was recently confronted by a family member for not attending.

That I should have asked the family for help if I couldn’t afford a plane ticket.

And that I should have left a more meaningful message.

In hindsight, I could have sent something more thoughtful but I wasn’t close to him.

As an adult (33), I feel I’m old enough to decide which relationships in my life are worth preserving bandwidth for.

That said, AITA?

Let’s find out what others have to say about this.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

Here’s a sweet and valid point.

Your obligation was fulfilled, says this one.

Short and simple.

Finally, this person shares some valid advice.

You can show your care to a loved one without spending money on a flight.

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