Raising a child together means transparency, especially when safety is involved.

So when one woman’s boyfriend begins quietly dropping their toddler off with a babysitter without telling her, she can’t help but feel out of the loop.

Keep reading for the full story.

AITA For wanting to know when my child is with a babysitter?

I (29F) have a child (1F) with my boyfriend (29).

We work opposite shifts to cover childcare because it’s expensive where we live.

We also share a car.

My boyfriend has our daughter during the day while I work.

Up to this point, she’s trusted him to handle this alone, but lately, she starts to get a little suspicious.

Normally, I don’t care what they do or where they go, as long as they’re safe and he’s there to pick me up after work.

Lately, I’ve noticed he always has a diaper bag with him, and things she uses daily have been missing.

She’s also been getting sick a lot.

I did some digging and found out he’s been taking her to a babysitter at least once a week, if not more, so he can “go to work.”

I have no problem with that.

Instead she takes issue with her boyfriend’s lack of transparency.

My issue is that he never once told me.

He never mentioned he was dropping our daughter off with a friend of his.

So if anything happened, I’d have no clue.

I don’t trust this person very much.

She makes not-so-safe choices.

But her boyfriend seems things very differently.

My boyfriend is saying I’m overreacting and that he doesn’t have to tell me every time she’s not with him.

He says I should trust him and that he can’t be her father if he can’t do that.

AITA for being mad at that?

Wanting a heads-up about your kid isn’t overreacting.

Redditors are sure to have some strong opinions.

This commenter is picking up on some major red flags.

This user agrees this mother has every right to be upset.

On the other hand, maybe this father has just as many rights to make decisions as she does.

Parenting doesn’t work on a need-to-know basis, and this was definitely something she needed to know.

This wasn’t about control, it was about communication.

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