Sometimes, you hear about other peoples’ relationships and all you can do is cringe…

And this is one of those stories!

Read on and hear from a woman who wants some independence in her life, but her husband isn’t on the same page as her.

Start now and see what you think.

WIBTA if I opened up a separate bank from my husband?

“Married, 30F here. He’s 31M.

Got married early, had kids early, and I put off my education and career for a very long time until about 2 years ago.

I am on my last semester of school and I have landed a job that will be in my profession and I am pretty excited.

Money has been tight for years and I’m glad I’ll be able to contribute a decent amount to support the four of us.

I have been dependent on him for over a decade.

She’s in a different position now.

I want to be an adult, have a bank account with some money in it that I can use for personal or fun expenses for myself.

Most of my paycheck would go into our joint, but a small % would go into mine, so I can spend the money how I wish, or “treat him” or buy him things with money I know I made on my own.

This is very important to me.

I pitched the idea to him a couple days ago, and he basically said no, let’s keep our money together. “You can put your paychecks into the savings account, if you want.”

I tried to reason with him, and I said, “I don’t see any downsides to this, why can’t I?”

He’s being hard-headed about this.

And he replied with, “Well what are the positives to it? Why can’t you just leave it together?”

I just want to have my own money that I can budget myself and decide how to spend myself, while knowing that I wasn’t dependent on him to get things that I want.

Is that so terrible? Am I doing something wrong here?

I asked him again today, “Can I just have an account that I put $50 in every paycheck?” and I was met with the same response.”

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Her husband sounds a bit controlling, don’t you think…?

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