Relationships are wonderful, but they can also be difficult, and dating in the modern world has a lot of obstacles that make it very difficult.

Two women got on a podcast and talked about how being single in their 30’s means that they value themselves.

On the Liz Moody Podcast, they began by reading a claim that said, “No woman is single in her 30’s for any reason other than she values and loves herself, because she could easily not be single if she were willing to settle.”

That may be the case in many situations, but certainly not all of them.

They then get into the discussion and say, “Framing being single as that’s because I value myself, that’s because I love myself. I could go out there and find somebody. There’s a lot of people out there to choose from, and many people choose to settle.”

The other guest agrees and says, “It’s very easy to find someone, like if you have no standards and you are happy with anything and will settle for anything.”

People shouldn’t settle, but they also shouldn’t have unrealistic standards.

She then goes on and says, “With straight relationships, men are not competing with each other when they are dating a woman. They are competing against a woman’s solitude.”

That’s true. And it is also true for men.

The video clip wraps up with them saying, “Almost, the more comfortable you are with your solitude, the more of a high-quality partner you will get because you won’t be settling.”

Talking about relationships will always rile people up so it is not surprising that this is a popular video.

While nothing they are saying is new or groundbreaking, it is an important reminder that you don’t have to settle.

Treating each other well and being kind to everyone will help us all in dating.

Check out their full video here:

@lizmoody

agree or disagree?? from the viral episode of the @lizmoody podcast featuring party of one author @damekeane: it’s called: The Marriage Myth: When Science Favors Being Single i’m married, AND i think it’s more important than ever before to validate ALL life choices, because that’s what gives people real options — to stay with a partner because it’s truly a good match, or to not settle because society tells us there’s one right way to live life. i’d loved to know your lived experience with this – how are you finding dating these days? and if you’ve built a life that you love, does that make it harder to find men that are worth upending that for? listen to the full episode — it’s SO good — by searching “liz moody marriage” on apple, spotify, youtube, or wherever you get your pods! And follow me, your girl @lizmoody for tips on how yo make health and wellness accessible to you #neuroscience #mindsetmatters #mindfulness #mindset #relationship

♬ original sound – Liz Moody

The commenters definitely agree with her.

This person suggests that they are not in a hurry to find someone.

Here is someone who doesn’t want to be in a relationship at all.

This commenter is making a good point too though.

Why is dating so much like going to war?

If you liked that story, check out this one about a 72-year-old woman was told by her life insurance company that her policy was worthless because she’d paid for 40 years. 🙁