Young Woman Spent Years Building Up Her Savings, So When Her Older Sibling Expected A Handout And Got Told No, The Whole Family Turned On Her
by Benjamin Cottrell

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Sometimes the true price of having a robust savings account is everyone around you feeling entitled to a cut.
One woman tried to protect the money she worked so hard to earn, but she was constantly pressured by her irresponsible older sister to give it up.
So when her parents started piling on with the guilt trips, she wasn’t sure how much more she could take.
Keep reading for the full story.
AITA for not giving my sister money I’ve been saving, even though she already told our parents I would?
I’m 24F and still living at home.
I’ve been saving money for a few years so I can eventually move out.
She’s built a reputation in her family as the responsible one.
I don’t make a lot, so it’s been slow and I’ve had to say no to a lot of things to build it up.
My family knows I’m careful with money.
Her older sister, however.
My sister is 29 and has been having money problems for a while.
She quit her job last year and has been picking up random work here and there, but nothing consistent.
Then the uncomfortable requests started coming.
A few days ago she came to me saying she needed help paying some bills.
I told her I didn’t really have money to spare.
Her sister then started making things up.
She then said she already told our parents that I’d help her.
I was honestly caught off guard.
So when she said no, things got ugly.
When I said no again, she got upset and said I’m the only one with savings and that I can “always save again later.”
Now my parents keep bringing it up.
Her parents keep guilting her to help out.
They aren’t forcing me, but they keep saying things like I’m young, my sister is stressed, and family should support each other.
The house has been awkward since then and my sister barely talks to me.
Part of her feels bad, but the other half feels justified.
I feel bad because she’s struggling, but I also feel like she assumed she was entitled to my money and didn’t respect the effort it took me to save it.
AITA for saying no?
No one wants to disappoint their family, but sometimes “no” is the only way to stick up for yourself.
What did Reddit have to say?
If the parents want to help out so bad, then why don’t they pay up?

It’s important to keep her eye on the prize as far as her finances go.

Aren’t older siblings supposed to be the more responsible ones?

Maybe it’s time to get the heck away from all this extra pressure.

Her sister may have needed a bailout, but she knew she had much better things to save her money for — namely getting the heck out of that house.
At the end of the day, it’s her savings account, not a community fund.
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