When you love cooking for people, it is pretty common to prepare dishes that other people like, even if they aren’t your favorite.

What would you do if your aunt prepared a birthday cake for you without realizing that it wasn’t your favorite flavor?

That is what happened to the man in this story, so he had a small slice of the cake and thanked his aunt, but she was offended that he didn’t eat the whole thing.

AITA for eating a normal portion of the cake my aunt made for my birthday?

For context, I (25M) love to cook. All the recipes I make, I’ve learned from my late paternal grandfather.

Sounds delicious.

One of my grandpa’s dishes that I often make for almost every family gathering is his bananas foster, and for our family, it’s definitely a crowd-pleaser.

However, bananas are not my favorite food/flavor. I’ll have a bite of the dish to make sure the dish tastes right, and I’ll usually have a small portion of the bananas foster I’ve made.

Happy birthday

I celebrated my birthday last week, and many of my friends and family attended, including my aunt (my dad’s older sister by 2 or 3 years).

During the party, she approached me and gave me a bananas foster cake she made.

That was nice of her to bring a dessert.

I took the cake, thanked my aunt for it, placed it on the dessert table, and got a slice for myself.

Admittedly, I did take a smaller portion of the cake, but when I ate it, I definitely thought it was delicious, which I also told my aunt at my party.

She seems very sensitive.

The day after my party, I received a call from my aunt. Our conversation went like this (not exact words):

Aunt: Hey OP, did you enjoy the cake I made?
Me: Yes, it was delicious, which I told you during the party.
Aunt: So, why did you get a smaller slice than usual?

Sticking with the truth is always best.

At this point, I was deciding to tell the truth or say a white lie. But I thought if I lied this might be a bigger issue in the future so I told her the truth, instead.

Me: Bananas aren’t my favorite flavor, but since you gifted me that cake, I still had a slice.
Aunt: I made that cake for your birthday, so you should have eaten most of it. It was rude of you to put it on the dessert table for everyone else to eat it. It’s like you re-gifted my cake to everyone else.

It is weird that she is so upset about this.

Me: I’m sorry if it came off that way but I find it unreasonable for me to have majority of a cake with a flavor I don’t like. I thought of sharing it with everyone made sure that what you made didn’t go to waste. From the looks of it, a lot of people liked your cake as there was none of it left.
Aunt: Also, if you don’t like bananas that much, why do you keep on making dad’s bananas foster?

He loves cooking for the family.

Me: I know it was one of grandpa’s favorite recipes and a lot of people in our family love that dish, so I keep on making it despite my not liking the taste of bananas.
Aunt: That is not an excuse to be disrespectful and ungrateful… (she then hangs up)

I don’t think I was disrespectful or ungrateful for what I did.

My parents, siblings, and even my cousins (my aunt’s children) are on my side, and some of them thought she overreacted.

So, AITA?

He not only didn’t do anything wrong, he actually went out of his way to be polite and compliment her on her dish. She is just being overly sensitive.

Read on to see what the people in the comments have to say about this.

It is a weird situation, that’s for sure.

I don’t understand what his Aunt expected of him.

I wouldn’t mind eating an entire cake.

Birthday cakes are meant for everyone.

Who wouldn’t share the cake?

His aunt seems way to sensitive about a birthday cake.

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