Family stories can shape how we see ourselves growing up.

The following story is about a teenage girl who discovered that the story her parents told about her adoption wasn’t entirely true.

She had always believed she was adopted from China by loving parents who chose her, regardless of blood.

But everything changed when she learned the truth, and now, she feels disappointed.

Let’s take a closer look!

AITAH for telling my adopted parents I’m disappointed to find out my adopted father is my biological father?

Growing up, I (16F) was told a story.

I was this precious baby who was born in China.

I was adopted by a lovely white American family.

This teenage girl was assured by her adopted parents that they love her.

They said they loved me and chose me the moment they saw me.

That love is what mattered, not blood.

They said it did not matter that I did not look like them, and my race did not matter.

They said I was their daughter because of love.

She found out that her adopted dad was actually her biological father.

It turns out my mom (41F) and dad (41M) told some lies.

My adopted dad knew my biological mom a little too well.

I was born in China to a Chinese woman. That part is still true.

But my adopted dad is my biological dad.

My adopted mom raised the product of her husband’s betrayal.

Her parents tried to convince her that it was a good thing.

When I found out, my parents tried to spin this.

All of a sudden, it is such a great thing to be blood-related to my dad.

Did they not think that if it is so great that I am blood-related to my dad, what about the fact that I am not blood-related to my mom?

I am talking about my adopted mom.

But, in turn, she was really disappointed to know this.

They are disappointed that I felt disappointed by all this.

Being blood-related is what a lot of adopted kids dream of, but not like this.

Am I just weird? Or am I the jerk?

Receiving big news can be overwhelming, especially when it makes your whole life feel like a lie.

Her reaction was valid, and perhaps she needs more time to accept everything she found out.

Maybe it’s best for her parents to give her time and space to really process everything, instead of forcing her to feel better right away.

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Do you agree? Let’s check out other people’s comments on this.

This person makes some valid points.

Here’s another personal thought.

You’re allowed to feel that way, says this one.

Short and sweet.

Finally, this user commends the adopted mom.

Turns out, some “family secrets” come with a plot twist no one asked for.