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Imagine deciding to live with your partner, but instead of buying a house together, you move into your partner’s house. This isn’t your house, but you live there.

Would you be willing to spend your own money on a home renovation project if your partner didn’t have the money for it, or would you refuse?

In this story, one man finds himself in that exact situation, and he’s hesitant to spend his money since he doesn’t own the house.

Keep reading to see if you think he’s making the right decision.

AITAH for being reluctant to pay for building work in my partners house?

I live with my partner and our 7 month old son. The house is owned by her outright, and I had no financial input in the purchase.

She was reluctant to move when we decided to live together as she loves her house, and in the nicest possible way, I’m fairly indifferent to where I live.

As long as it’s in good condition and I have room to put some of my stuff, so we decided rather than buying together, we’d live at hers.

They need more space.

We are now running out of room with the baby and I need office space for my job. (It’s currently what will be the babies room)

I have savings, which originally was for my deposit for a house, she doesn’t really have much in the way of savings, but she does have some – not enough to do any renovations alone.

We really need more space and the most obvious thing to do would be a small extension.

In reality I could book this in today and get the ball rolling, but part of me is a little worried.

Let’s see what he’s so worried about.

I keep picturing a scenario where I spend my savings on an extension, our relationship breaks down and I then have no home and no savings, and I’d have to start from scratch with a baby to support.

There are other things that need doing in the house, and obviously I want my baby to grow up in a nice house, but I feel I’d have no protection should I spends grands and the worst happens.

How do people handle a scenario like this?

Can they add his name to the title of the house? That way they co-own it. I’m not sure if his partner would agree to that, but it could be an option.

Let’s see what Reddit suggests.

This person is on his side.

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Another person offers a suggestion.

Here’s a vote for moving.

If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a girl who thinks her family is doing too much in criticizing the tidiness in her small space.

And here’s a vote for marriage.

I have another idea. If the baby has taken the extra room he wants for his stuff, how about he buys an RV or a tiny house. He can use it as a place to keep his stuff, like a man cave, but it’s portable, so if they split up, he can take it with him or sell it.

Most people would be hesitant in his situation.

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Jayne Elliott

Jayne Elliott | Contributing Writer, Life & Drama

Jayne Elliott is a contributing writer and editor for TwistedSifter specializing in human interest stories, internet culture, and family dynamics. With over 12 years of editorial experience in digital publishing, Jayne excels at analyzing complex online communities and transforming viral social debates into thoughtful, highly engaging narratives.

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