All She Wanted Was to Wash Her Clothes Herself — Somehow, It Became a Family Issue
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Household help stops feeling helpful when someone keeps ignoring a very specific boundary.
This person has repeatedly asked their family to leave their laundry alone, only to have those requests brushed aside.
Then a sister rewashes clean clothes, ruins return tags, and tosses line-dry pants into the dryer without asking.
See why gratitude is getting harder to summon this time.
AITA for telling my family to stop doing MY laundry? They don’t listen and i feel like something may be wrong with me?
Hi, so i am in a dilemma here.
I’ve asked my family to stop doing my laundry for me.
It sounds dumb but listen: I have a very particular way of doing things, and if its messed up I get upset.
Why would they want to do her laundry?
It has happened before where my mom or sister decides that my basket is now their responsibility, which it obviously isnt.
First few times I just ask that they dont do my laundry, and I can do it myself.
Completely disregarded.
I dont know why but they take offense when I tell them not to do my laundry. I say like “thank you but let me do it please”. I’ve explained why I’d rather do it myself but they get mad.
This is a really weird situation.
Today, i already did my laundry last night but hadnt folded it yet.
My sister threw it all back in the wash because she assumed it was dirty (without asking me if it was).
Funny enough, I left some new clothes at the bottom that I hadn’t washed or tried on yet but had to leave in my basket so I would remember when i folded my clothes.
The tags dissolved and now I cant return them if they don’t fit.
But there’s another problem.
Additionally, I had a pair of 7 for all mankind pants in the wash at the time that were specified line dry.
They ended up in the tumble dry aswell and didnt even dry all the way through.
I was crashing out in my head because I’m not allowed to retaliate.
I would be upset by this as well.
I’m not happy because my clothing items have now been either ruined, not washed correctly, or unable to return.
Am I being too petty or am I justified?
My sister and mom tell me to stop “acting like that”(implication of like OCD or autism).
I don’t even think I have any type of issue, but I’m lowkey being gaslit that I should just be grateful or something.
AITA?
Maybe they are trying to be helpful, or maybe they are just being controlling. Either way, she should find a way to make them stop.
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Read on to see what the people in the comments have to say about it.
This is a good question.
This commenter says to leave her basket in her room.
If she is leaving her laundry in the machine, this is on her.
Keeping her laundry in her room would help with the problem.
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The family should honor her wishes.
They were not upset about laundry being done differently so much as having their belongings handled after repeatedly asking everyone to stop.
Their family framed the reaction as unreasonable, even though the latest mistake damaged clothes and eliminated the option to return new items.
Helpful stops being helpful when “please don’t” somehow translates to “do it again.”
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